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Abusive relationships

TheCatWoman

I don't feel like I've ever had a non abusive relationship, I've had 4 long term relationships and whilst the abuse hasn't been physical, its certainly been psychological and only looking back do I see how damaging they've been. I'm so much better off on my own and never want another relationship again.

Does anyone else feel the same?

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  • i feel the same i had so many people be mean and abusive to me.

  • in reply to 71870

    I've just from a friend who's struggling with the old chestnut about them wanting you to do everything with them, but never wanting to do anything with you, its all got to be about them and thier needs, wishes and likes.

    If theres something I want to do, I just plan to do it alone, looking back I've almost never had someone willing to do go anywhere or do anything I've wanted, so I've ended up either not doing it or doing it alone. It would be nice to have someone to share things with, but on the other hand, I don't have to accomodate anyone else, so if I want to stand in front of a picture or display case for ages I can and if theres something that dosen't interest me I can walk past it.

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  • in reply to 71870

    I've just from a friend who's struggling with the old chestnut about them wanting you to do everything with them, but never wanting to do anything with you, its all got to be about them and thier needs, wishes and likes.

    If theres something I want to do, I just plan to do it alone, looking back I've almost never had someone willing to do go anywhere or do anything I've wanted, so I've ended up either not doing it or doing it alone. It would be nice to have someone to share things with, but on the other hand, I don't have to accomodate anyone else, so if I want to stand in front of a picture or display case for ages I can and if theres something that dosen't interest me I can walk past it.

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    TheCatWoman said:
    I've just from a friend who's struggling with the old chestnut about them wanting you to do everything with them, but never wanting to do anything with you, its all got to be about them and thier needs, wishes and likes.

    Thinking about it I replied earlier about relationships as in partners, I have had quite a few friends over the years but they have also been in control and always expected me to support them but not the other way around. I did have a so called best friend which the friendship fell apart around 8 years ago. He was always playing games with me and expecting me to listen to his constant rants about his family and how he had been treated badly by everyone. This of course used to affect my mood and general wellbeing and although I was a good friend to him he got very angry one day and threatened me. That was the end of that one but when I think back most of my so called friends have always had some sort of control over me and abusing my kind nature. I have acquaintances now and only one friend.