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RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) help?

MrsPickles

How has anyone managed this?

I am really struggling with it and it's ruining everything.

I spend hours at night rehashing the previous conversations of the day and how I was awful, how I did xyz wrong. I then go on a spiral how they now hate me, so they'll do this, then this will happen..each scenario and memory playback gets so dramatic in the consequences..I end up in a complete state. 

I no longer want to go outside, it's happening with every interaction, even walking past a stranger and how my facial expression must of been wrong :( 

I am constantly calling my family to check out everything. I don't know how to stop all the panic. It's really unpleasant and I feel miserable. 

Can you give advice on how you stopped it and manage to get by day to day? 

Parents

  • Hi there. I've recently discovered that I suffer with this as well. I also struggle with it a great deal. It affects almost every aspect of my life and I feel like I can't enjoy anything because it.

    For example, I was cooking dinner for everyone earlier and my Mum pointed out certain mistakes I had made (not reading recipe instructions properly, forgetting to put peas in etc.) A lot of the time when I'm cooking dinner is I constantly ask my Mum if I'm doing everything right. Because of this, I have become a stressed out perfectionist terrified of making mistakes. When I do make mistakes and they're pointed out to me, I feel so ashamed, I get very depressed and anxious and its on my mind for a long time. 

    Another thing I do, particularly in the workplace, is consistently asking co workers if I'm doing a good enough? e.g. "Did I handle that OK?" It makes me constantly on high alert and I can't relax and my confidence isn't high.

    At the moment, the thing I'm doing at the moment is I'm telling myself is you made a mistake, fine, but I can learn from it. I'm not sure what else to say as I'm trying to navigate it myself.

    Just so you know, I completely understand what you're going through.

  • in reply to Ellie

    Thank you, hearing I'm not alone feeling like this is actually really reassuring. I feel very alone in the spiral and I'm aware I'm driving everyone nuts needing constant reassurance. It's really oddly calming hearing others struggles and examples being able to relate. It's a phew moment. 

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  • in reply to Ellie

    Thank you, hearing I'm not alone feeling like this is actually really reassuring. I feel very alone in the spiral and I'm aware I'm driving everyone nuts needing constant reassurance. It's really oddly calming hearing others struggles and examples being able to relate. It's a phew moment. 

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  • in reply to MrsPickles

    RSD got me diagnosed in the first place. It was horrific - couldn't concentrate, couldn't work, was basically just drifting through days like a zombie trying to put right what I thought I had messed up.

    It helps if there are specific issues that get resolved but the trouble is, you know it's like a game of 'Whack-a-Mole' - as soon as one thing gets resolved and you get a nice calm feeling for half a day then something else kicks off.

    I'm going to research the mindfulness and give that a try as well.