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Feeling like I'm not good enough for society

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My whole life it's like I'm below everyone else. Always last to be picked in group activities, people treating me like a toddler, always the second option. And I can tell myself that it's the world that's wrong not me but either way no one's ever going to think I'm good enough for society and it is what it is and it's embarrassing and it's stupid but it's true. Maybe their wrong, maybe their right but the result is still me being fundamentally unlikeable.

  • Well, if they picked you as last place, then wouldn't they become last place in your eyes? If they treat you like a toddler, then don't they look like the toddler to you? If they treat you as the second option, then wouldn't they become the second option to you? Your view of them matters as much as their view of you. If you think they are wrong to treat you that way,  they most likely are wrong, since they would not like it if others treated them that way.  If you don't want to be chosen last, or chosen as the second option, then become the one who chooses and the one who picks, and have more autonomy over your own life. 

  • Is society good enough for you? People fear differences instead of embracing them. I am not keen on group activities but when I find a group who do understand then is great fun. Yes, I have been talked to like a child but I see this as maybe a persons defence mechanism?  

  • My belief is that it comes down to society not understanding autism at all. If society understood autism, autistic people would be viewed and treated as human beings. We would be equal to everyone else. Our lives would be valued equally to everyone else’s.

    For me, battling the NHS for help made me realise our lives are not equal. If they were, would it be such a challenge to get help, when you know you need help? Would we be ostracised for being ourselves?

    It truly is this world that is messed up, not us. This world is without reason. Everything important lacks logic. Only the luxuries have care and thought in their design and implementation. People literally die because of how our world operates. That’s absolutely messed up. That’s not the product of a just world, or a fair world.

  • there's only one of you in this world and that makes you special and a treasure. you are part of society which means you are ok...you just have to accept this .And by the way, group activities are ok but not everything in life ( I hate them)

  • It's the same for us. The general attitude is to patronise those with 'something wrong with them'.