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Justbe

Hi,

I was wondering if you could please give me some advice. 

How can I manage my fear of being judged by people ? I wish that I didn't care about it, but I do. 

I carry whilst out, what is probably seen as a children's backpack (because of its theme). I'm in my fifties. This theme comforts me, but it makes me anxious too, because I fear other people's reactions. And I don't like drawing attention to myself. 

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  • The only thing you fear (based on what you say) is fear itself.  People will judge, it's human nature.  I know that I get pretty "judgey" when I see 80% of the population all following the latest fashion and how they all look the same....want the same....behave the same...I am amazed and saddened by this.  Similarly, I have no doubt that I am judged too.  So what?!

    I am not fearful of any judgement.....I concentrate on getting my own behaviours and thoughts right.....for me.  Not as easy as it sounds, but I do think that this is the key thing to concentrate upon, whilst fear can (and should) be dispelled.

    Not sure this is helpful, but it's how I am.

    Number

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Yes, I guess it's having a different mindset/way of thinking to manage things.

    Thank you 

  • in reply to Justbe

    I think, by definition, all autists have a different mindset......but finding a way to think and manage this....that's the puppy !!

    I am very happy for people who seem to have that ability innately...I did not.  Mine came out of adversity, and I note with some comfort, that others on these pages have come to calmness a similar way.  I hope this fact gives hope to those who are currently struggling with their affairs and own thoughts.

    It is unbearably bleak to walk the dark and hopeless corridors of the mind...feeling that you are locked in there forever....but if you can stay sane and not panic....I think that any type of profound and existential adversity can deliver clarity and happier pastures....eventually.

    Hope springs eternal.

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  • in reply to Justbe

    I think, by definition, all autists have a different mindset......but finding a way to think and manage this....that's the puppy !!

    I am very happy for people who seem to have that ability innately...I did not.  Mine came out of adversity, and I note with some comfort, that others on these pages have come to calmness a similar way.  I hope this fact gives hope to those who are currently struggling with their affairs and own thoughts.

    It is unbearably bleak to walk the dark and hopeless corridors of the mind...feeling that you are locked in there forever....but if you can stay sane and not panic....I think that any type of profound and existential adversity can deliver clarity and happier pastures....eventually.

    Hope springs eternal.

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