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Justbe

Hi,

I was wondering if you could please give me some advice. 

How can I manage my fear of being judged by people ? I wish that I didn't care about it, but I do. 

I carry whilst out, what is probably seen as a children's backpack (because of its theme). I'm in my fifties. This theme comforts me, but it makes me anxious too, because I fear other people's reactions. And I don't like drawing attention to myself. 

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  • The only thing you fear (based on what you say) is fear itself.  People will judge, it's human nature.  I know that I get pretty "judgey" when I see 80% of the population all following the latest fashion and how they all look the same....want the same....behave the same...I am amazed and saddened by this.  Similarly, I have no doubt that I am judged too.  So what?!

    I am not fearful of any judgement.....I concentrate on getting my own behaviours and thoughts right.....for me.  Not as easy as it sounds, but I do think that this is the key thing to concentrate upon, whilst fear can (and should) be dispelled.

    Not sure this is helpful, but it's how I am.

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  • The only thing you fear (based on what you say) is fear itself.  People will judge, it's human nature.  I know that I get pretty "judgey" when I see 80% of the population all following the latest fashion and how they all look the same....want the same....behave the same...I am amazed and saddened by this.  Similarly, I have no doubt that I am judged too.  So what?!

    I am not fearful of any judgement.....I concentrate on getting my own behaviours and thoughts right.....for me.  Not as easy as it sounds, but I do think that this is the key thing to concentrate upon, whilst fear can (and should) be dispelled.

    Not sure this is helpful, but it's how I am.

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