Do you ever cry?

update on this... finally cry lol alot. like a pent up burst balloon.

and all because my supervisor is seemingly finally getting what he wants as he suspended me from work and is again trying to get me fired. hes been trying to fire me for the past 1 and a half years but now im sent home suspended until investigation ends. i guess i have been depressed by these attacks by my supervisor against me for the past year and that has made me depressed to the point of inability to cry, but the suspension and being sent home and feeling like im fired perhaps is a release. maybe its good to be fired from that place then. fucking aweful place to work for. managers and supervisors all related to one another and they make it really hard if they want you gone. and they only wanted me gone as i leave after my 8 hours each day, i used to do overtime for them but they was really ungreatful and abusive and youd do 16 hours a day and theyd shout in your face and tell you to do a 17th and say you cant leave or they will fire you. i complained against that a year and a half ago and tried to force change the company, but hes been attacking me all the time and making life hell while holding me back and promoting juniors above me. constantly nit picking trying to find anything to throw at me and get me fired, even ridiculously claimed i was discriminating against him! 

anyways being suspended and at home seems to have released the tear ducts from whatever was preventing a release.

I did that in full daylight and broke my foot- it did make me cry though so you're not wrong

AutToFindOutMore said:

I have thought about using methods to induce crying in my self, but have never tried any.

I find that switching off the lights at night and walking toe first into the bedpost quite effective - in case that helps ;)

Interesting topic. I used to cry as a young child, but as I got older it was frowned upon for males to cry, so I rarely cry (I haven't cried for years). I think it would be good to cry (in private) offering a release.  There seem to be a number of views about crying, for example:

"How You Can Benefit from Crying":
https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/toughtimes/2021/5/how-you-can-benefit-from-crying

In the following article it quotes "Psychologists have largely found the that far from being cathartic, crying often ends up making you feel worse":
https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20190814-benefits-of-crying-is-it-good-or-bad-for-you

I have thought about using methods to induce crying in my self, but have never tried any.

I feel like I want to cry but don't think my brain can process the tears so they never come but I feel like I need to cry. I've always been like this, if I fell and hurt my knee as a girl I didn't cry but would still scream and feel like I was crying but never produced tears. My mum said I was the only child she'd seen not cry.

As you say, friend, freedom is carries with it its own weight, but I think it is only right that we seek it out. Although it is much easier knowing where to find my kin, to be able rely on the buddy system that is this community, its also makes me feel a lot better to be able to pay kindness forward, as only a forum can likeminded-forum can facilitate.

DeSpereaux said:

made me feel as a child-escaped to a desert might feel, free but also in the unknown.

Into an unknown, but in the company of many friends who know the ways, how to avoid the traps and pitfalls and who can light the way so we walk together.

I don’t cry commonly, in fact I had thought that I had grown out of it, but I did get a little teary as a lost child might, when I had received my autistic diagnosis. You see I think that I had spent so much time, accepting my fate and the reality that I was not meant to fork-lightning. That I had just been holding my breath and accepting my fate with a straight-back, when the my diagnosis came along, that despairing catacomb that was my psyche, broke open into a whole new frontier, so I found myself breathlessly weeping in a shower. To be in despair is to be as stable as slave might be, but to be granted freedom and presented with real-change and opportunities, just made me feel as a child-escaped to a desert might feel, free but also in the unknown.

It's fairly rare for me, though not quite as rare as it used to be. I definitely feel like I cry less than average though. 

I don't cry. I haven't cried since I was a little girl, and even then I didn't cry much. I think now because of depression I'm just too depressed to cry. My tears are hidden away somewhere and I'm left feeling like I need a good cry but can't find the tears to let them out.

I never cry, I don't know why. Is it possible to be too unhappy to cry? It's like I've been so sad for so long that I've somehow lost the ability to cry!

i find it hard to do so.
i was feeling pretty depressed and felt i needed to cry to let it out a few weeks back but i found i couldnt cry no matter how bad i felt so it was hard to relieve that feeling.

I didn't cry for around 20 years I reckon from 13 to 33.

Weird because I cry every now and then now, mostly because of music. Death or anything else doesn't make me cry. It comes out of nowhere.

I suppose it's probably crossed wires in the brain. 

It does feel right to feel some emotion, it's like allowing odd flows into my life.

I have reacted to grief in much the same way. I think it can be hard to share that grief with the outside world. I certainly tend to subconsciously stop myself often anyway.

Finding the words to describe something so abstract and subjective is immensely hard I think. Maybe expressing it with liquid from our faces is better after all!

I’ve never really got the crying over media thing, but I can also relate to the concept of becoming overwhelmed. In those moments, things can come out in a variety of ways really. But like you, since making many adjustments in my life, I’m finding things a lot more manageable generally.

Ah thanks Trisha. I tend to dip in and out from time to time it seems at the moment. I’m just trying to roll with whatever seems most comfortable really.

Im sorry to read of the difficult times you are experiencing at the moment. I find that in those moments things tend to come out a lot later for me. Sometimes months/years later. It definitely adds to the confusion.

Inspiration is probably what I feel during those more emotional moment I described experiencing when listening to music. Definitely something I can relate to in a round about way.

I also got very tearful during my wedding so can see what you mean here too. The only other time I experienced similar was at the birth of my daughter.

No I almost never cry. I lost my dad and my sister and didn't cry once. I feel I was crying inside, probably, but I've never really understood emotions and how or when I should cry.

I cry loads

I find that any extreme of emotion quickly becomes overwhelming for me and that tends to result in tears. I'm okay at identifying those emotions but terrible at expressing them in words so it all just comes out of my eyeballs instead!