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Just venting - ignore me!

Touay

Was I better off when i didn't know I was autistic, when I just felt I was so broken that I couldn't interact with people, so much so that I gave up socializing and was dead inside?

I now have to live the heartbreak that I will never be able to read people, never see an expression of love toward me .... and so much more ...  

...  a rough few days ...

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  • Touay,

    It is good to vent.  I know what rough days feel like - when they are strung together.  So the following is not aimed at trying to make you feel instant happiness / snap out of where you are..........but it will hopefully keep you positivity well gently topped up....

    Never being able to read people accurately or consistently DOESN'T mean you can never read people.  You can - the key is working out when you can and when you can't !

    You will get to see an expression of love toward you.....but you might need to look harder to notice it.

    Number

  • in reply to Deleted User

    I hope you don’t mind me jumping in here but I wanted to say that this

    Unknown said:
    Never being able to read people accurately or consistently DOESN'T mean you can never read people.  You can - the key is working out when you can and when you can't !

    is excellent advice/ reframing. I think I could have avoided several of these sorts of times that are described had I heard this sooner.

    I wanted to come and write something similar, but your words here are better than I would have managed.

  • in reply to Oakling

    no problem with you commenting.   I am really trying to work out how to deal with this better, so all suggestions are welcome.

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  • in reply to Touay

    I can relate to that. This community really helped/is helping me to do the same. It takes a lot of time to come to terms with everything. For me, after being assessed, I sort of when into analysis mode and reflected on every part of my life through that new lens. I had to remind myself that I was still the same person I always had been up until that point. The only difference post diagnosis was that I now had some knowledge that I didn’t have before. With knowledge, planning for what I find difficult or when I find things difficult has become a lot easier.