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I’m not good at anything, and I don’t feel wanted

NAS82520

 I don’t feel wanted AT ALL. I suck at everything I do, even things people tell me I’m good at. My whole life people said I’ve been smart, and I’m failing algebra and Spanish. And they say it’s because I’m not putting enough effort in, even though I am trying as hard as I physically can. But that’s not what I care most about. What I’m really worried about is my lack of love. Earlier this week, I have autism, and my crush does too. Earlier this week I saw a post of my crush making out with someone else, and I broke down into tears and I haven’t felt happy since. I’ve asked out about 10 people in the past 2 years and all of them have said no but my current crush is the only one I’ve ever actually loved. I don’t know what’s different about them that they can find a partner so easily and I can’t. It just makes me seem like a failure that someone in the same exact situation as me has everything I’ve ever wanted and they got it so easily when I’ve been trying as hard as I possibly could for actual YEARS. I feel so pathetic for having to ask about this on Reddit of all places, and I just don’t know what to do, I’ve never really felt like I’ve been loved at all in my entire life and I’m kind of starting to lose hope on everything. I think MAYBE it’s because of my appearance but I literally do not know where to start on fixing it because I’m so fucking ugly

  • in reply to Sporadic Sparkly

    I mean by society and the world at large, not in our ability to 'love'. We're only valued if we can provide and that's a sad fact 

  • i'm so so so sorry . i um also had a  lot going on too this week 3 people have stopped talking to me about my mental health and left working with me . i don't want to get into so much detail in that . I'm tired and feel like throwing up today so I'm logging off so that I can sleep hope you feel better soon . call samaritans on 116 123 . i completely know how that feel like I've been broken hearted for a long time now by other things just hope you feel better soon 

  • dont judge yourself by other peoples idea of what is good or useful... other people are idiots themselves... other systems and things maybe stupid... algebra for example is a stupid made up pointless thing so it doesnt matter if your no good at that as a smart person would know its nonsense and isnt required in the world and its made up rubbish..... 

    i dont judge the fact i got a grade G in religious education at school... and thats lower than what i thought was the lowest grade a grade F... i consider a lower grade and worse result in some made up rubbish to be a sign of inteligence. if a person says religions is made up nonsense and is likely created by schizos that talk to themselves and that became praying, then youd get a low grade in that subject but youd be totally truthful and inteligent and that would be smart...

    if you got a low grade in algebra, that isnt your fault... thats algebras fault for being a pointless made up thing that has no actual use and literally makes no sense at all.... what is A + 34 if B is 67 - A (34+B - X = Y Z* squared)? ... see, nonsense..... if you cant answer that then you are smart because your brain is telling you the truth that its made up rubbish and has no use in reality lol education system is for the none thinking, you shouldnt care what the education system thinks or says because the education system is fallen to the unthinking long long ago.

  • in reply to NAS81317

    I beg to differ. I believe men and women can both struggle, just in different ways. Also, I disagree with your last sentence. Some men and women are capable of loving unconditionally, and some aren't.

  • Simply because men have it much, much harder than women. Children and Women are unconditionally loved, but we're not.

  • Sorry to hear you feel like that and I'm glad you posted. That's not pathetic at all. It sucks when that happens. I used to get really big crushes on people, I was often unable ever to do anything about it, when I did it often went wrong. Crushes often feel really intense and can be easily mistaken with love, although I don't think that's what they are. But it feels awful to be going through, and I'm sorry you are going through it.

    You're quite entitled to feel like crap about it. But please don't let it cloud everything. If people have been telling you your whole life that you are smart, you are smart. Struggling in a couple of subjects doesn't change that. And you are probably down on your appearance because of what you are going through.

    I suppose what I am saying is: your feelings are very real and no doubt very painful. But they will pass.