I am 39 years old. Little education no real work experience and married with child. Ive always been looked after and am scared all the time. Been told i dont have to work but feel so guilty ... ive barely ever lived and when people tell me to be happy i cant. Im beyond useless
The whole point of the Industrial Revolution was to reduce the requirement for human labour! Guess what folks? It worked really well!
The glorious challenge for many of us is to find something to do that is both fulfilling or at l;east not work, either that or compete for "makework" or menial work or one of the very few "real" jobs out there. And when you do find a decent job then beware of "instability". Al the primo jobs I've had ended in a corporate takeover or some other externally applied unexpected rubbish.
You've made it to 39 with autism and raised a child, you ain't useless. I'd advise you to start finding your happiness in simply being alive, and doing whatever you can find to do that makes the world, or your family, or your own life a bit better. Education is now free of charge via the internet, with practical skills training on youtube.
If you can decouple yourself from the belief that a "meaningful job" makes money, and replace that with "A meaningful job is one that got me the result I was looking for" you will start to find your own productivity & power. I turned down a paying job last week, (and god knows I could put some money to good use right now) because a swift investigation revealed it was not what I wanted it to be. You are about to hit forty, which for me was an age when things started to make more sense. Allow yourself to take more control as you feel the wisdom start to form.
USE that freedom that Messrs Boulton & Watt bestowed upon you back in the 19th century! Hardly anyone else does.
The main problem is Schools being turned into Warzones; as well as a dumbed-down curriculum. Children are conditioned to believe that being an Adult is a Prison Sentence. No wonder they grow up overdependent on Mammy!
This World, alas, shows no mercy. However, we have to create our own reality.
I never did and barely function at all
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Is there any way to pm someone here. I am not kidding when i say i barely look after myself...i avoid alot like the plague. I wouldnt even know where to start with work let alone people
When I was twelve and dozing though a history lesson at my new school the (stern, and slightly violent, by repute) history teacher suddenly started asking me questions directly. I thought he was asking me what he was talking about, (which I was slightly following) so I sparked up with "Perspective"; "Sir?" only to find out that A: He was actually asking me my name! (much to the amusement of everyone else), and B: I now had a new nickname.
I mention this because it may be that you "barely function at all" only when viewed through a "normie propagandised" lens. If I were to track you down stalker style (I won't, but I do like to throw in a controversial idea to wake the reader up oaccasionally though) and go ask your child whether you function well as a parent, I may get a different perspective on the matter.
I'm willing to bet a shiny ounce of silver, that if a deep dive were conducted into you and your life, we would find someone who functions very, very well indeed on some levels and awfully on others. (That does seem to be how Autism works generally!) You are young enough to still do stuff, and even young enough to spend a couple more years figuring out what it is you really want to do.
I've recently discovered that prioritising being kind to other people AND myself and factoring in a moral dimension to everything I do, has made me a happier person.
When I was twelve and dozing though a history lesson at my new school the (stern, and slightly violent, by repute) history teacher suddenly started asking me questions directly. I thought he was asking me what he was talking about, (which I was slightly following) so I sparked up with "Perspective"; "Sir?" only to find out that A: He was actually asking me my name! (much to the amusement of everyone else), and B: I now had a new nickname.
I mention this because it may be that you "barely function at all" only when viewed through a "normie propagandised" lens. If I were to track you down stalker style (I won't, but I do like to throw in a controversial idea to wake the reader up oaccasionally though) and go ask your child whether you function well as a parent, I may get a different perspective on the matter.
I'm willing to bet a shiny ounce of silver, that if a deep dive were conducted into you and your life, we would find someone who functions very, very well indeed on some levels and awfully on others. (That does seem to be how Autism works generally!) You are young enough to still do stuff, and even young enough to spend a couple more years figuring out what it is you really want to do.
I've recently discovered that prioritising being kind to other people AND myself and factoring in a moral dimension to everything I do, has made me a happier person.
Right click on their name works if they are open to P.M's Some of us are not.
Is there any way to pm someone here. I am not kidding when i say i barely look after myself...i avoid alot like the plague. I wouldnt even know where to start with work let alone people
