Mental torture

I am 39 years old. Little education no real work experience and married with child. Ive always been looked after and am scared all the time. Been told i dont have to work but feel so guilty ... ive barely ever lived and when people tell me to be happy i cant. Im beyond useless

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  • The whole point of the Industrial Revolution was to reduce the requirement for human labour! Guess what folks? It worked really well!

    The glorious challenge for many of us is to find something to do that is both fulfilling or at l;east not work, either that or compete for "makework" or menial work or one of the very few "real" jobs out there. And when you do find a decent job then beware of "instability". Al the primo jobs I've had ended in a corporate takeover or some other externally applied unexpected rubbish. 

    You've made it to 39 with autism and raised a child, you ain't useless. I'd advise you to start finding your happiness in simply being alive, and doing whatever you can find to do that makes the world, or your family, or your own life a bit better. Education is now free of charge via the internet, with practical skills training on youtube. 

    If you can decouple yourself from the belief that a "meaningful job" makes money, and replace that with "A meaningful job is one that got me the result I was looking for" you will start to find your own productivity & power. I turned down a paying job last week, (and god knows I could put some money to good use right now) because a swift investigation revealed it was not what I wanted it to be. You are about to hit forty, which for me was an age when things started to make more sense. Allow yourself to take more control as you feel the wisdom start to form. 

    USE that freedom that Messrs Boulton & Watt bestowed upon you back in the 19th century! Hardly anyone else does. 

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  • The whole point of the Industrial Revolution was to reduce the requirement for human labour! Guess what folks? It worked really well!

    The glorious challenge for many of us is to find something to do that is both fulfilling or at l;east not work, either that or compete for "makework" or menial work or one of the very few "real" jobs out there. And when you do find a decent job then beware of "instability". Al the primo jobs I've had ended in a corporate takeover or some other externally applied unexpected rubbish. 

    You've made it to 39 with autism and raised a child, you ain't useless. I'd advise you to start finding your happiness in simply being alive, and doing whatever you can find to do that makes the world, or your family, or your own life a bit better. Education is now free of charge via the internet, with practical skills training on youtube. 

    If you can decouple yourself from the belief that a "meaningful job" makes money, and replace that with "A meaningful job is one that got me the result I was looking for" you will start to find your own productivity & power. I turned down a paying job last week, (and god knows I could put some money to good use right now) because a swift investigation revealed it was not what I wanted it to be. You are about to hit forty, which for me was an age when things started to make more sense. Allow yourself to take more control as you feel the wisdom start to form. 

    USE that freedom that Messrs Boulton & Watt bestowed upon you back in the 19th century! Hardly anyone else does. 

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