Questions

Whats the most beneficial support that people (you) have received for their mental health?

Diazepam.

What self compassion do people (you) say to themselves to help with self-esteem?

I don't. I just live with it.

Has anyone actually started to identify their own emotions within themselves, and has this helped with regulating emotions or helps with not suppressing emotions?

I know what my emotions, but they are pointless for the most part. I use them when I need them, mostly I detach them and myself.

James said:

Having a routine greatly helps - so someone, at a specific time, checking to see how I am - managing to do something active to break/interrupt the ruminations

that sounds something that will help me too, i am awaiting support from CMHT and maybe i could recieve that kind of structured support.

Thank you for sharing 

That's a good question - as it is one I am currenlty asking myself!

Having a routine greatly helps - so someone, at a specific time, checking to see how I am - managing to do something active to break/interrupt the ruminations.

(Should perhaps add - structure is something that helps when mental health isn't an issue - I can often self-sabotage by forgetting to eat by being to engrossed in something, and then panic when I feel dizzy.)

James said:

Medication and structured support

Yes medication for anxiety helps and been told it should help with my obsessive intrusive thoughts which i hope it does.

Does not help with my EUPD or the C-PTSD which i have gained from it.

What type of structured support helps you?

Whats the most beneficial support that people (you) have received for their mental health? 

Medication and structured support, with support from colleagues.

What self compassion do people (you) say to themselves to help with self-esteem?

This is very difficult, particularly when there are issues with mental health. I seem to suddenly become hypercritical rather than kind - a perspective that is the reverse of how I view others. People keep telling me I should be kinder to myself, but I seem quite oblivious to how to do that. The answers of others on this thread regarding this question is illuminating.

Has anyone actually started to identify their own emotions within themselves, and has this helped with regulating emotions or helps with not suppressing emotions?

This is a difficult process for me, as I feel many emotions intensely and for a long time, and one that I am starting.

i keep looking at this picture and i am not sure if that middle one is a small dog or cat?

Dawn said:

I suddenly have a very commical image in my head of me making myself two cups of tea either side of the kitchen table and alternately occupying both chairs and filling two ends of a conversation, possibly offering myself a chocolate biscuit between slurps of tea, while I tell myself what I need ...lol. 

that is very funny but that could be a great distraction technique 

Dawn said:

In the end, I'm sure it must just really mean focusing on the positives about yourself.

yes i am going to go with focusing on the positives about myself 

'Cos it's now bugging me that I don't get the term, I just googled 'self compassion' actually. I'm none the wiser.

It seems to mean 'treating yourself as you would a friend'..hmmm...For a mate with problems, I'd put the kettle on, listen a lot, then ask how I could help. 

I suddenly have a very commical image in my head of me making myself two cups of tea either side of the kitchen table and alternately occupying both chairs and filling two ends of a conversation, possibly offering myself a chocolate biscuit between slurps of tea, while I tell myself what I need ...lol. 

In the end, I'm sure it must just really mean focusing on the positives about yourself.

Dawn said:

However, the principle of focusing on what you've done well, your talents and good qualities, I can see would be very helpful for self-esteem. Might help to make a list of those. 

oh yes thats more understanding, i will concentrate on these for my self-esteem.

Dawn said:

you come across as inquisitive and determined to understand your autism, which are great qualities, and you are supportive of others, which helps them.

Thank you very much, those are very kind words which puts a smile on my face. 

Aww dinner time, they look cute 

Thank you very much, this will help 

This is almost identical, available on the website at the bottom of the image.

Indeed, that term 'self-compassion' is a bit of meaningless nonsense; like you are supposed to cry in sympathy for yourself, or make tea and talk to yourself or something. I don't get it..

However, the principle of focusing on what you've done well, your talents and good qualities, I can see would be very helpful for self-esteem. Might help to make a list of those. 

For instance  without knowing you, but from your interactions here, you come across as inquisitive and determined to understand your autism, which are great qualities, and you are supportive of others, which helps them.

haha yeah sorry about before, I wasn't trying to offend you. I do take things too literally sometimes, and all the things you said about "building bridges" and "their dog was a dustbin" is very confusing to me too, but it puts a smile on my face because they seem so strange. 

I'm not sure if I'll look at a question in a less literal way, because I thought I knew what the question was talking about, so that's why I responded in the way that I did, but of course it turned out I didn't understand the question correctly lol. But at least it's another learning experience. 

I hardly talk to them now, they just make me feel worse so I try to help myself instead. I'm not great at helping myself but it's better than talking to them.

someone the other day said that their dog was a dust bin so i pictured a dust bin in my mind and had no clue what they was on about but then they explained to me that they eat everything i was like oh ok, so next time someone says their dog is a dustbin i will know what they mean now

no i never was aware of my emotions until i suppressed a life time of them, now i just want to learn my emotions in a way so i dont suppress my emotions and be able to gain some tricks at regulating them as they sure dont come naturally to me

Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia said:

Are you having a bad day?

yes sorry everyday is bad for me

Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia said:

I'm not sure if what I have stated was offensive to you

it was the why would i know bit, i thought it was intended at me as i was asking a stupid question or something i do get defensive sometimes......my bad

i guess im still learning

do you think ASCs can learn about not taking things as literal or is it just cemented in our brains i mean i use to get so confused at sayings such as "build a bridge to the other side" but i learnt what they mean by it as in do something that will help to get over problems, so next time you see a question that says what i asked would you look at it in a different way or would you just not understand it even though you just experienced it abit to literal?

Dawn said:

How can one have compassion for oneself?

not sure but i got told to use self-commpasaion for my self-esteem as i have gained a bad habit of negativiely talking to my self very badly and i think it has crushed my self-esteem i can only try understand and learn