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Chris

Whats the most beneficial support that people (you) have received for their mental health? 

I have no idea what will help me recover and i have done alot of research, i am scared that even support from the CMHT will not help.

What self compassion do people (you) say to themselves to help with self-esteem?

I find self compassion very hard as i hate myself so much that it feels hard to positively talk to myself and i have no clue what to tell myself.

Has anyone actually started to identify their own emotions within themselves, and has this helped with regulating emotions or helps with not suppressing emotions?

i have started to identify my emotions to myself which is very tricky as i keep thinking every emotions i have is anxiety for even being overwhelmed all the time leads me to know not having a clue what emotion i am feeling, i have been making a mood journey wih a mood meter to try and help myself learn my emotions.

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  • 1) Most beneficial support:  Quite a lot, but none of it came from the MH services.  Spiritual healing is great.  Hypnotherapy helps on occasion.  My friends - far more use than services because they ACTUALLY listen and also share their problems - it's always useful to hear about other people's experience. What saved me was working out I was autistic and then my diagnosis - reading is now very helpful and I've a ton more self-help ideas from there.

    2) Self-compassion - I don't really have a self-esteem problem mercifully, but, you know, I have never really understood that phrase.  Compassion, for me, is a response to someone else's difficulties; a motivation to want to do something to alleviate their distress.  How can one have compassion for oneself?  For myself, I merely ask myself whether I did the correct things in response to situations, or not.  If I did that's fine - business as usual.  If I didn't then I need to do something about that and correct my error.  Any uncomfortable feeling that might bring will go away when the problem is solved - simple.

  • in reply to Dawn
    Dawn said:
    How can one have compassion for oneself?

    not sure but i got told to use self-commpasaion for my self-esteem as i have gained a bad habit of negativiely talking to my self very badly and i think it has crushed my self-esteem i can only try understand and learn

  • in reply to Chris

    Indeed, that term 'self-compassion' is a bit of meaningless nonsense; like you are supposed to cry in sympathy for yourself, or make tea and talk to yourself or something. I don't get it..

    However, the principle of focusing on what you've done well, your talents and good qualities, I can see would be very helpful for self-esteem. Might help to make a list of those. 

    For instance  without knowing you, but from your interactions here, you come across as inquisitive and determined to understand your autism, which are great qualities, and you are supportive of others, which helps them.

  • in reply to Dawn
    Dawn said:
    I suddenly have a very commical image in my head of me making myself two cups of tea either side of the kitchen table and alternately occupying both chairs and filling two ends of a conversation, possibly offering myself a chocolate biscuit between slurps of tea, while I tell myself what I need ...lol. 

    that is very funny but that could be a great distraction technique 

    Dawn said:
    In the end, I'm sure it must just really mean focusing on the positives about yourself.

    yes i am going to go with focusing on the positives about myself 

  • in reply to Chris

    'Cos it's now bugging me that I don't get the term, I just googled 'self compassion' actually. I'm none the wiser.

    It seems to mean 'treating yourself as you would a friend'..hmmm...For a mate with problems, I'd put the kettle on, listen a lot, then ask how I could help. 

    I suddenly have a very commical image in my head of me making myself two cups of tea either side of the kitchen table and alternately occupying both chairs and filling two ends of a conversation, possibly offering myself a chocolate biscuit between slurps of tea, while I tell myself what I need ...lol. 

    In the end, I'm sure it must just really mean focusing on the positives about yourself.

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  • in reply to Chris

    'Cos it's now bugging me that I don't get the term, I just googled 'self compassion' actually. I'm none the wiser.

    It seems to mean 'treating yourself as you would a friend'..hmmm...For a mate with problems, I'd put the kettle on, listen a lot, then ask how I could help. 

    I suddenly have a very commical image in my head of me making myself two cups of tea either side of the kitchen table and alternately occupying both chairs and filling two ends of a conversation, possibly offering myself a chocolate biscuit between slurps of tea, while I tell myself what I need ...lol. 

    In the end, I'm sure it must just really mean focusing on the positives about yourself.

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  • in reply to Dawn
    Dawn said:
    I suddenly have a very commical image in my head of me making myself two cups of tea either side of the kitchen table and alternately occupying both chairs and filling two ends of a conversation, possibly offering myself a chocolate biscuit between slurps of tea, while I tell myself what I need ...lol. 

    that is very funny but that could be a great distraction technique 

    Dawn said:
    In the end, I'm sure it must just really mean focusing on the positives about yourself.

    yes i am going to go with focusing on the positives about myself