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Are their different forms of mal adaptive day dreaming?

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though i am productive by volunteering regularly , cleaning my clothes , eating when i should, destressing, i keep blocking out reality by, living inside my head, music , internet escapism, the gaming world and dvd movies. i have other hobbies outside of digital escapism, but when im not doing these, if im all alone, i resort to digital escapism. Is this a form of mal adaptive day dreaming? is this harmful at all all? what do you think? send links to articles about other forms of maladaptive day dreaming if thats the case. thanks everyone!!!

 

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  • in reply to Roguelife

    Yes, you are right. I should say that it's not better than the real world, rather that it's preferable to the real world in many cases. But that's only because so much of the real world is distressing and uncontrollable.

    I would like to have more of the beautiful experiences and enjoyable feelings and sensations that the real world can offer, but it seems that I only get less of them as time goes on.

  • i daydream but they dont effect my life or interfere so probably not maladaptive or whatever... if i daydream its because theres nothing im doing anyway but probably being bored or waiting and thus it doesnt interfere with anything for me. but my daydreams can be pretty vivid to the point i might aswel be asleep.... i lose sight of reality and see what im thinking, everything else doesnt exist, a literal daydream not just light thought. i dont see what im staring at, i see whats in my head.... like.... a place id rather be, like nice green fields with mountains around. a lake and imagining what its like to just be there all day fishing. then i snap out of it and realise it looks like i was staring at some dudes ass with my staring position lol

  • in reply to Untoward

    I think it's safer, more predictable, more within our control. But better...? I don't know. The real world can be overwhelmingly beautiful too. I find walks in nature very stimulating, also good cinema, drama, music and other art forms, and of course a good relationship or physical pleasures, including food. We just don't have so much control over these things - it might rain heavily so the walk is off, we may not enjoy the film after all, the relationship doesn't work out etc. And having said this, I know I still fall into the trap of daydreaming large chunks of the day away. It's not wasted time either, I often dream up songs for my band or short stories and other things, which makes me wonder if my daydreaming is part of being a creative person.

    Where does your daydreaming take you?

  • I fear lack of control

    so I control where I can.  Some parts of my imagination are under my control and I have always used them as an escape from sensory reality.   I use the memories of senses -sight, sound, smell touch - in my imagination because past versions of sensory information have predictable outcomes whereas I am not sure that I trust the outcomes of real, present sensory information. 

  • in reply to Roguelife

    I spend a lot of time in my head daydreaming because it's better than the real world.

  • I discovered the concept of maladaptive daydreaming fairly recently, and as I understand it it's more like staring into space without needing a distraction (other than what's going on in your head). I do this so often it has caused problems all through my life, particularly when I was in school. What you're describing seems like escapism and distraction from your worries, which can be okay if kept under control and to a minimum, but what you don't want is to avoid doing important tasks. Too much avoidance is an issue, though don't be too hard on yourself - life is tough.