New but late diagnosis at 44 - Life turned upside down

I’m 46 I was diagnosed last year, I would say nothing has changed about who you are, but it can seem harder to feel calm enough to make sense of things. It all comes around, people who make life hard for others the weight comes back onto them. Learn to enjoy small things again

I know I am the same person, I have the same likes and dislikes and the same desire to be kind and a nice person. I am definitely far from calm at the moment  I think I need to try and slow everything down and try to stop panicking, which sounds easy in my head, but it isn't at all.

I think it’s necessary to make space but also have some structure and a support network around you. I’m frequently reminded of how vicious people can be so only keep small circles of close ones around, imo

I have to say that I used to hate standing around the school gates with the ‘other mums’ waiting for my children to come out of school. I was so relieved when I didn’t have to do that anymore! 

I do have my dad and his partner who are trying to understand and help, that has helped a lot today along with the advice here. Ive never had lots of friends and can definitely agree with how vicious people can be, the mums on the school playground are the worst for me. I definitely need structure and routine, it stresses me massively when things change so routine and knowing what's happening is a must.

I do have my dad and his partner who are trying to understand and help, that has helped a lot today along with the advice here. Ive never had lots of friends and can definitely agree with how vicious people can be, the mums on the school playground are the worst for me. I definitely need structure and routine, it stresses me massively when things change so routine and knowing what's happening is a must.

I have to say that I used to hate standing around the school gates with the ‘other mums’ waiting for my children to come out of school. I was so relieved when I didn’t have to do that anymore!