My husband is 44 and waiting for diagnosis. We’ve been together 20 years and I love him so much. Since the pandemic he’s really struggled and I think found himself unmasking. He’s struggled to find a job and keep it due to several reasons - getting focused on one thing so not doing other tasks, saying something inappropriate or over sharing, and struggling to concentrate so making small mistakes. He’s now looking for another job but both him and I worry it will happen again. I’ve tried to help but I’m not sure I’m doing it right. Since I’ve been learning more about autism I’ve understood my husband so much more. One thing I’ve realised is he needs to work things out himself to understand things or accept an idea. Which is totally fine. But he’s stuck trying to work out what the issues are when working and how to find ways to manage it. He’s getting more and more depressed (he’s already on ssri’s) and says he feels useless and like he’s all wrong like “when he was a kid” (his words).
I really just want to help him. Any advice?
