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Latediagnosedandlost

Hi all. Im just going to put on what ive just put on my profile. Any advice or help would be lovely. Hope everyone's ok. Here goes..

I'm Sean. Im 50 and just been diagnosed as Autistic, with ADHD running co-currently. So I guess I'm AuDHD, if that's the right phrase?  And since that, I've been a person in two halves. Maybe even three. I know it doesn't make sense. I've felt relief, vindication,  but also denial and shame. And I dont know why. I dont know who the real me is now as I know I've been masking and covering up my authentic self by copying everyone else's mannerisms and actions, but without any of their knowledge. Trying to find out how be my myself from now on....

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  • Hi and welcome 

    I’m AuDHD too and I’ve felt that not knowing who the real me is after years of masking and copying others just to get by, so you’re not alone in that.

    For me it’s been a slow process of getting to know myself again. I’m still figuring it out. Be gentle with yourself, you don’t have to have all the answers straight away.

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  • in reply to Lonehare12

    Thank you for replying. At this moment in time I feel like im never going to find out who my authentic self is. I am a different person to different people. I act a certain way with one, and be another person to another. It sounds ridiculous. 

  • in reply to Latediagnosedandlost

    Yeah me too, and it is definitely not ridiculous but now I’m finding spaces where I can just be me without the mask.

    It does feel strange but it’s kind of releasing something at the same time, my body feels more relaxed. It’s hard to explain.

    I’ve joined a couple of in person Autistic groups. I live in the Sheffield area, and the groups are very gentle and non threatening. It’s a place where I feel safe enough to let my guard down or take my mask off.

    Maybe that might be something you want to try.

    Blush

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  • in reply to Latediagnosedandlost

    Yeah me too, and it is definitely not ridiculous but now I’m finding spaces where I can just be me without the mask.

    It does feel strange but it’s kind of releasing something at the same time, my body feels more relaxed. It’s hard to explain.

    I’ve joined a couple of in person Autistic groups. I live in the Sheffield area, and the groups are very gentle and non threatening. It’s a place where I feel safe enough to let my guard down or take my mask off.

    Maybe that might be something you want to try.

    Blush

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