Hi, My name is Sam and I think I may have aspergers after my husband mentioned an article he read which prompted me to spend the last 3 days researching aspergers and women with aspergers. I have taken numerous online tests which all show that I have possible aspergers. Are these online tests accurate? I have also read some testimonials of women and there was one which I read today which I totally related to and made me cry as I could identify with everything which she described. However I am second guessing whether I have the condition or not as I can communicate quite effectively and I have always enjoyed meeting new people. I can, though also feel uncomfortable in social situations and can get quite paranoid. I often say the wrong things although I have adapted my behaviour so this doen't happen so often in public ( it happens more at home). I am also very disorganised and get very stressed when I can't find things, often blaming others for this when I know it is my fault. I am sensitive to people and often withdraw myself from situations which I can't handle. I have often used alcohol as a tool to become socially accepted. I have read that women with aspergers can become chameleon like, adapting themselves in social situations. I feel that this describes me and I have often battled with myself for this as I often feel that I am not being me, but then when I am me I worry that people won't like me. I have real trouble with my family as my only brother has throughout his life had problems and although doesn't have a confirmed diagnosis my mum believes that he has aspergers and adhd. I don't want them thinking that I am saying this because I want the attention but I also want them to accept me for me and understand where I am coming from. I am sorry if this doesn't make sense but my head is all over that place at the moment and I don't know what to do?