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Hi my name is Sam

sammyb1974

Hi, My name is Sam and I think I may have aspergers after my husband mentioned an article he read which prompted me to spend the last 3 days researching aspergers and women with aspergers. I have taken numerous online tests which all show that I have possible aspergers. Are these online tests accurate? I have also read some testimonials of women and there was one which I read today which I totally related to and made me cry as I could identify with everything which she described. However I am second guessing whether I have the condition or not as I can communicate quite effectively and I have always enjoyed meeting new people. I can, though also feel uncomfortable in social situations and can get quite paranoid. I often say the wrong things although I have adapted my behaviour so this doen't happen so often in public ( it happens more at home). I am also very disorganised and get very stressed when I can't find things, often blaming others for this when I know it is my fault. I am sensitive to people and often withdraw myself from situations which I can't handle. I have often used alcohol as a tool to become socially accepted. I have read that women with aspergers can become chameleon like, adapting themselves in social situations. I feel that this describes me and I have often battled with myself for this as I often feel that I am not being me, but then when I am me I worry that people won't like me. I have real trouble with my family as my only brother has throughout his life had problems and although doesn't have a confirmed diagnosis my mum believes that he has aspergers and adhd. I don't want them thinking that I am saying this because I want the attention but I also want them to accept me for me and understand where I am coming from. I am sorry if this doesn't make sense but my head is all over that place at the moment and I don't know what to do?

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    I think ManyStripes has done a brilliant job in analyzing your situation. Smile

    I would also support his suggestion that it isn't absolutely necessary to get a diagnosis. There is a huge amount of literature and there is this forum here where you can discuss things and ask for help. The health service may also not respond very promptly to your request for a diagnosis and, assuming you got a diagnosis, they won't be able to wave a magic wand and make it go away. Try not to get drawn into a battle with them but still try to get what help you need. Personally I haven't had any post diagnosis treatment but have got an awful lot from this forum and from reading books and then going out and trying things out with family friends and colleagues.

    Just another tip for when you go to see the doctor. When I went I had written out a list of incidents and things that made me suspect that I had the condition. This can help to organise your thoughts and to get past the communication problems that are part and parcel of the condition.

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    I think ManyStripes has done a brilliant job in analyzing your situation. Smile

    I would also support his suggestion that it isn't absolutely necessary to get a diagnosis. There is a huge amount of literature and there is this forum here where you can discuss things and ask for help. The health service may also not respond very promptly to your request for a diagnosis and, assuming you got a diagnosis, they won't be able to wave a magic wand and make it go away. Try not to get drawn into a battle with them but still try to get what help you need. Personally I haven't had any post diagnosis treatment but have got an awful lot from this forum and from reading books and then going out and trying things out with family friends and colleagues.

    Just another tip for when you go to see the doctor. When I went I had written out a list of incidents and things that made me suspect that I had the condition. This can help to organise your thoughts and to get past the communication problems that are part and parcel of the condition.

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