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Why is it somehow my fault that i just got punched in the back of the head by a complete stranger in the dark, wearing dark clothes who was lurking in a bush?
We are sorry again to hear that you had this horrible experience. Well done for seeking support and reporting this to the police. We're wishing you a speedy recovery and hope you are okay.
Thankyou, i did get help from a passer by who helped me up and called the police. I am feeling a bit sore and in shock but haven't felt as bad as i would have had it not been for this online community - so thankyou all who have commented, it's helped alot.x
You should be able to walk where you like, when you like, unfortunately we have to be careful of where we go and take far to many precautions or get blamed for somehow "asking for it".
Having been involved in many Reclaim the Night marches and similar stuff I've seen all to often how the police use crimes against women to try and restrict what we do and where we go.
Everybody male and female should be able and supported to go about thier lawful business any time of the day or night and by lawful I mean anything that isn't a criminal undertaking.
It depends where the bush is really doesn’t it…. Being punched in the back of the head is never your fault. If it’s a bush near your home you need to access the route to get home? I would always avoid parks after dark and go the long way round but you’re equally not to know there is someone in a bush who shouldn’t be in the bush…. Also is the bush in your garden and the person blaming you friends with the attacker?
When something bad happens to you and you somehow get blamed for causing the other persons wrong doing
I think what is porbably happening here is that the situation seemed clear to the fault assigner that Jax was effectively puting herself in harms way by going where she was in the dark.
I don't know the details of the situation so I am guessing a lot of this - apologies if I am wide of the mark.
It is something a lot of autists do as we do not recognise the danger signs that are clear to NTs, so we find ourselves in harms way when they would be saying "why on earth did you go there?".
I've had it said to me plenty and in restrospect it was because I wasn't aware of the signs because I was clueless enough in social terms to not realise that some areas are effectively no-go zones exactly because there are muggers waiting in the bushes when it is dark.
What you can do is ask the fault assigner to explain clearly why they think you shouldn't have been there - make them explain it in detail until you understand it. If nothing else this grilling will stop them saying it to you again and at best you will have learned a new skill.
Yeah, it's being scapegoated by a bully or a collection of them.
It always used to upset and confuse me at school when people said things like 'what did you do to them, for them to behave towards you that?' I existed, that what I did, there was nothing I had or had not done, they were just horrible spiteful people.
