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Why is it somehow my fault that i just got punched in the back of the head by a complete stranger in the dark, wearing dark clothes who was lurking in a bush?
When something bad happens to you and you somehow get blamed for causing the other persons wrong doing
I think what is porbably happening here is that the situation seemed clear to the fault assigner that Jax was effectively puting herself in harms way by going where she was in the dark.
I don't know the details of the situation so I am guessing a lot of this - apologies if I am wide of the mark.
It is something a lot of autists do as we do not recognise the danger signs that are clear to NTs, so we find ourselves in harms way when they would be saying "why on earth did you go there?".
I've had it said to me plenty and in restrospect it was because I wasn't aware of the signs because I was clueless enough in social terms to not realise that some areas are effectively no-go zones exactly because there are muggers waiting in the bushes when it is dark.
What you can do is ask the fault assigner to explain clearly why they think you shouldn't have been there - make them explain it in detail until you understand it. If nothing else this grilling will stop them saying it to you again and at best you will have learned a new skill.
When something bad happens to you and you somehow get blamed for causing the other persons wrong doing
I think what is porbably happening here is that the situation seemed clear to the fault assigner that Jax was effectively puting herself in harms way by going where she was in the dark.
I don't know the details of the situation so I am guessing a lot of this - apologies if I am wide of the mark.
It is something a lot of autists do as we do not recognise the danger signs that are clear to NTs, so we find ourselves in harms way when they would be saying "why on earth did you go there?".
I've had it said to me plenty and in restrospect it was because I wasn't aware of the signs because I was clueless enough in social terms to not realise that some areas are effectively no-go zones exactly because there are muggers waiting in the bushes when it is dark.
What you can do is ask the fault assigner to explain clearly why they think you shouldn't have been there - make them explain it in detail until you understand it. If nothing else this grilling will stop them saying it to you again and at best you will have learned a new skill.
