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Disabilities and loneliness

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I’m a 19 year old woman and I am disabled. I am autistic, have a condition called nvld, i also have sensory processing disorder, tourettes syndrome and three types of anxiety. this all leads me to struggle a lot in my daily life. I feel as if I don’t have any independence as I can’t really do anything alone and have to rely on others.  At the moment im unsure as to what to do because I want to make friends and have a project to work on but I am hardly able to leave my house and I don’t work due to my disabilities.

Does anyone have any ideas of what I could do in my spare time or how I can feel less lonely without going to places since I can’t go on my own? I hope this post was okay, i couldn’t think of what to say really. 

  • in reply to Touay

    I find socialising difficult too and that’s a shame that you got banned. I find that apps like that can be stressful since they ban you or are not very good representation of the neurodivergent community. I appreciate that but I’m not in the midlands myself.

    perhaps, I don’t get out often myself, it’s hard to admit but I can’t really go out by myself, I’ll always be reliant on people to help me in that way, even when I’m older, and now i could require carers for it.

    at the moment I’m looking for local autism meet-ups, although nothing is showing up in my area, that may be because it’s smaller in comparison to other areas. that’s exactly right, i haven’t found any diagnosed women in my area and it’s definitely harder to get diagnosed as autistic when you’re female and an adult.

  • I am 50 and a guy.  I work, so I meet people there, but I find socialising very difficult for to my social 'challenges' and sensory issues.  I try to be a bit social online, and was enjoying the hiki app for a while, but I was banned - I suspect because one of the mods was anti-Semitic and criticised a post calling for the destruction of Israel.
    I try to meet people IRL - a local autism meet-up. (Im in the midlands - I can send you the facebook link if you want it)) but even that is difficult.

    Perhaps you could try a local autism meetup, or maybe try to find people on here that live near you and just meet for a coffee and a chat occasionally?   I guess i is more difficult for autistic women, as there are fewer "diagnosed" autistic women and going for coffee at a meetup with a bunch of socially awkward guys could be intimidating.

    Sorry I don't have any better suggestions.

  • in reply to NAS91928

    that sounds interesting 

  • I find occulus to be a breath of fresh air.  Spare time I love cataloguing my stamp collection (1918 hyperinflation era)

  • in reply to EM

    Hi em thank you for replying, I don’t know who you are obviously but by what you’ve said I think you sound like a lovely person. that’s exactly how I feel, I don’t have any friends and also struggle to make them because of the autism. 

    that makes so much sense, when I see what people my age are doing I often feel behind! those are some good suggestions, I’m actually quite bad at navigating my way round so don’t go out often, hence why I don’t feel very independent.

    I understand, I also don’t know what I’m doing and thank you for taking the time to write this response out.

  • Hi I’m 23 F, I’m in a similar position as you. I have autism and other disabilities too. I’m house bound pretty much 5-6 days out of the week I’m struggling a lot atm with loneliness so I get you. Even if I make friends it’s hard enough to connect with them because of the autism but finding common ground is harder than ever I feel like so many people my age are at such a different phase of life than I am, they’re travelling, settling down, starting family’s and I’m just here feeling like I’m just existing. My family suggested I just go out even if it’s on my own and just go to a cafe, library and shopping but again it’s on my own. I’ve tried online chats but it never moves outside of the chats. Anyway I don’t really have any advice because I don’t know wtf I’m doing myself haha I’m just saying I get you and I feel ya loneliness