Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello.
I've got an official diagnosis of autism. I'm not sure how I feel about it. The diagnosis didn't bring many answers or comfort, it's been a whirlwind and things aren't getting any easier.
One of my hobbies is singing. I like music. It makes me feel emotions, something I can't experience without music I've noticed. This is to do with my autism so my assessment report said.
Lately I've been feeling down. I find life with autism incredibly complex, it's hard and I worry about the future but I'm hoping joining an autistic community will help me deal with my problems and feel less alone.
Welcome! I enjoy singing too, I'm good at identifying the key of a song really easily.
I hope you enjoy this community.
Oh do you! Cool! What songs do you like to sing?
What music are you interested in?
Thank you. I am enjoying it. I like the friendly atmosphere.
I like pop songs, and I mainly listen to boybands. Think Take That, One Direction, Westlife. Also people like Ed Sheeran.
Yeah, so many things have fallen through because I was desperate and tried too hard. But I didn't know any better.
I wanted to visit places with friends but I put too much pressure on them. Unsurprisingly it didn't play out well.
I say slow and steady wins the race. Do what's right for you and in your own time, that way there's a lot less pressure.
Over planning and over thinking is a recipe for disaster.
A bit like you I've learned this the hard way, a number of times lol.
Yeah I think the key is not putting all the pressure on yourself to organise things. I was trying too hard and then it fell apart.
Nothing wrong with planning, but it's important to do things in a way they feel right to you.
I hope the next one will be less stress for you. I've found planning is key for nearly everything I do.
During my assessment last year I was told that liking to plan things in advance is a part of autism for a lot of people.
I didn't plan it very well, hence I ended up trying to get out of Wembley Stadium on my own... (and yes that was my first gig)
That must have been an exciting experience both times, though nerve-racking too! Well done for doing it on your own. No way I could ever do that lol.
I went to see Westlife live in 2022 and JLS live last year. Both times I went on my own (which I would recommend doing just once!).