Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello there. I’ve had very limited social interaction since I dropped out of college in 2011. I came to this site in the hopes of talking to people who might be able to empathise with my social/cognitive struggles. I don’t feel like I really have any true opinions and interests, with a few exceptions, so I don’t even feel like a real person most of the time. I wouldn’t mind talking with anyone really but I have a really bad fear of being judged.
yes, i compare myself to successful people... i can't seem to do any of the wonderful things they do... just getting dressed like they do would be very difficult for me... i don't have any easy answers (or i'd be using those answers!). like u, i do seem to struggle with pretty simple tasks, but also seem to look at them in a very detailed way, much more so than others. that often gets in the way, but it's a strength also, which has been difficult to appreciate, much less harness...
a relationship? i've kind of given up.... it's so difficult... but sometimes 'luck' plays a big role in life, and so i have to be open to that - luck, not dumb luck, but something happens, the right people come along...etc.. it's luck, often.
How do you send a friend request? How come I can’t respond to certain posts?
Yeah I think I compare myself to other people a lot. I struggle to do the simplest of tasks, so it’s completely baffling to me how people can hold down a job and be in a relationship. I find myself being overwhelmed extremely easily.
it's tuff, afaict.... i have taken to being open about my sensitivities, comorbidities, aspergers, etc... i try not to go on and on - at least about my asd... but i do go on about other things ---- i try to catch myself and explain why i do that... at this point, my therapist, who specializes in asd, told me 'people suck. they're only interested in themselves, and whether you like them or dislike them." more or less... i'm processing that... i feel as an aspie, i tend to look to NT's as always in the know, always doing well, much more successful than me... i think being judged is an occupational hazard of asd.
Hi Lucy, nice to meet you too!
i always think a landrover is speaking. They do have great character.
I'm still lost
Hello False Surrender,
wellcome to the community and I hope you meet many friends here. This is a wonderful place to chat and not be judged. I too was diagnosed in 2016.
Yeah it’s bad enough when you have one of these problems but what do you do when you have several that all exacerbate each other? I know this feeling all too well. Trying to come up with goals for CBT is a can of worms itself, then it makes me feel like I’ve got a gun to my head. I was trying to work my way up to gong to an autism group but corona and moving house got in the way of that. I’m currently waiting to join the local services in my new area.
Yes, They are not equipped to treat someone with autism, ADHD and sensory processing disorder. I have tried everything from CBT therapy to talking therapy.
Complex situation
Have you reached out to any mental health services? Could you be experiencing PTSD?
I Kinda understand you. I'm terrified about starting another job because i am still anxious because of last few job. I witness some horrific things and experience something horrifying. But if i don't try something soon i am going to worse off.
I went to College for 6 months after I left school. I found the commute really tough and I struggle to learn by conventional means. It just got too much to me. I’ve mostly been a recluse since. The thought of having to do anything absolutely terrifies me.
You haven't missed out on much. like i said im am twenty four and have had multiple job got fired and managed out in all of them. Tried and apprenticeship and it got ended early because the training provider spent all my funding somewhere . attended college couldn't complete because of no access to transport get their. Tried obtaining driving licence got told i can't drive on the 6th driving instructor. Basically back at square one from when i left school worse of and physically and mentally exhausted.
I’m 26 but I feel really old because I’ve done nothing since I left school.
I know it does, I’ve heard of the remake as well. Its always had a decent following in Japan and Its even had a bit of a resurgence in the West. My favourite Digimon is Metalgreymon, particularly the blue/virus version with Imperialdramon being a close second.
I regret getting rid of all my Pokemon and Yu-Gi-Oh! Cards. So many fond memories.
Digimon still exist they made remake of the original series,
I like Digimon. It’s such a shame it faded into obscurity in the West. I was obsessed with the Digimon Anime when I was a kid.
False Surrender said:I suppose things are going reasonably well in the sense that I’ve managed to take a small step outside my comfort zone and talk to people online.
I took a similar step when I got on the internet and joined the NAS community around November 2016, a year or so after my diagnosis in May 2015.
I really do not like writing very much at all, but communication with like and differently minded individuals is rather a treasure in life, in being really fascinating.
Hopefully you will or are even finding this community to be more of comfort zone possibly?