Abigail

In a way this is a great place for you to get information, because we can tell you where we went wrong. You don't have to go forward not being able to relate to anyone like a lot of us did and you don't have to feel alone either. There might be a lot of information coming your way and it could be a lot to take in, but you can decide honestly with yourself what you're capable of right now.

I can say a big mistake I made in the past is making vague plans - If you can find out precisely the details of what you need to do and make sure to cover every aspect of that instead of going forward "hoping it'll turn out well" then that'd be a great start.

You could live to 100 years old and this is the time when it's okay to be figuring everything out. Making mistakes for example just means you're willing to try because if you don't try it's not even possible to make them.

You're just a human having your human experience so remember you deserve to be happy. 

Well Abigail, I think you are doing fine, You write quite a clear and concise letter, that is more than I did when I was at School.

I was told my writing was as if a Spider had fallen into the inkwell and crawled over the Page (An early form of Keyboard called handwriting).

All young people find their own circumstances overwhelming and perhaps frightening at times, It is part of growing up,  I can say this because I am 80.

I do remember a young lady by the name of Jamie Owen who had a lot of difficulties, more than I have ever encountered and in her wisdom she said in relation to her difficulties, which were profound,  "NEVER GIVE UP". When I have felt everything was against me, I always remember her saying that.

I hope this helps you.

Hello WolfyC. Thank you, that is so kind of you to say. I hope it won't make things difficult for me in the future but maybe like you said I won't need good grades to get a decent job.

Hello Mouse2. I'm sorry about your issues at school as well. Reading that reminded me of me. I spend lunch alone as well. I'm not sure if it was the same for you but I get bullied sometimes. I'm glad you get in some social interactions weekly. I spend all my time alone but would love to do what you do when I'm older.

Hello K. I'm sorry you struggle with school as well, I know it can be really hard. I'm glad you were able to learn after school instead. I try my best to learn at school but I really am very stupid and can't learn anything. There is a counselor at school who I want to speak to but I find it hard vocally speaking with others. But I'll try.

Mouse2, 

It's good that you have shared your experience as my experience did not have a good outcome. 

I hope that in schools these days there are real supports in place for people who need it. 

Hi Abi, I'm female and had issues at school. I couldnt make friends and would eat lunch alone most times. Home life wasent the best if I'm honest. I didnt know that I was autistic when I was at school as I managed I guess. Average grades but I studied hard on my own at home. I'd talk to people at school but never had friends I could rely on. It's hard but as you get older you may find that one good friend or find ways to fill that void. Like I now go see a band in my local if I'm lonely and that's my socialising for a week or more and I'm content with that

AbigailShort2003 said:

I used to write a diary but it made me sad when I was writing it and I cried so stopped. I think its bad when I'm at home, home life is hard right now. That effect me at school because I get upset at school

When I was at school my home life was really bad too, I never found a solution because I love my family but it is still full of problems. 

I left school without an education because of it everything I know I have learnt after I left school on my own, I wishe I could go back to school and get the grade I need now. 

No one tells you that you grades dictate your future. 

If you can please get support at school and don't feel bad for asking for help, God I wish I did. 

Remember your at school just for you your education is just for you, for your life to be better. 

Do not care about what people think or say just get yourself sorted. ( big long speech, sorry for that it's just what I would say to myself back then if I could).

If you ever need to talk then you can talk to me. 

Stupid people don't realize that they're stupid, so you definitely are not. If you have an idea of what you want to do later in life you can find out how important schoolwork really is in achieving that and it may go some way in easing your worries even a little.

Hello K. Well you are really nice so I think you might be right. Maybe I can make some friends here. I used to write a diary but it made me sad when I was writing it and I cried so stopped. I think its bad when I'm at home, home life is hard right now. That effect me at school because I get upset at school. I did last week and my teacher gave me a hug. I'm glad I can tell you because I have no one else to tell to.

Hi Abigail,

It's always hard making friends but from what I have experienced on here people are nice and always have good advice if you have a situation. 

It seems that you are having meltdowns often, try to keep a diary so that you have a clear picture of your day and you might find out what your triggers are. 

Plus don't keep your worries to yourself and bottle things up because there is always someone on hear to listen I've found, and it helps to vent.