Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello my name is Abigail. I'm newish to the world of Autism and need help coping with the effects it has in life. Especially with the stress and worry it causing me. To me Autism feels like a big bag and I'm inside of it and every day there's a gust of wind that blows me to different places and when im in certain places I feel the bag closes in on me and I struggle to breathe and control myself. It's hard work at school because I'm stupid and struggling with the work and no one wants to be my friend but it's even worse at home. Sometimes I cry and other times I scream. I need help to deal with all this please.
Thank you,
Abi.
Hi Abigail,
It's always hard making friends but from what I have experienced on here people are nice and always have good advice if you have a situation.
It seems that you are having meltdowns often, try to keep a diary so that you have a clear picture of your day and you might find out what your triggers are.
Plus don't keep your worries to yourself and bottle things up because there is always someone on hear to listen I've found, and it helps to vent.
Hello K. Well you are really nice so I think you might be right. Maybe I can make some friends here. I used to write a diary but it made me sad when I was writing it and I cried so stopped. I think its bad when I'm at home, home life is hard right now. That effect me at school because I get upset at school. I did last week and my teacher gave me a hug. I'm glad I can tell you because I have no one else to tell to.
AbigailShort2003 said:I used to write a diary but it made me sad when I was writing it and I cried so stopped. I think its bad when I'm at home, home life is hard right now. That effect me at school because I get upset at school
When I was at school my home life was really bad too, I never found a solution because I love my family but it is still full of problems.
I left school without an education because of it everything I know I have learnt after I left school on my own, I wishe I could go back to school and get the grade I need now.
No one tells you that you grades dictate your future.
If you can please get support at school and don't feel bad for asking for help, God I wish I did.
Remember your at school just for you your education is just for you, for your life to be better.
Do not care about what people think or say just get yourself sorted. ( big long speech, sorry for that it's just what I would say to myself back then if I could).
If you ever need to talk then you can talk to me.
Hello Mouse2. I'm sorry about your issues at school as well. Reading that reminded me of me. I spend lunch alone as well. I'm not sure if it was the same for you but I get bullied sometimes. I'm glad you get in some social interactions weekly. I spend all my time alone but would love to do what you do when I'm older.
Hello K. I'm sorry you struggle with school as well, I know it can be really hard. I'm glad you were able to learn after school instead. I try my best to learn at school but I really am very stupid and can't learn anything. There is a counselor at school who I want to speak to but I find it hard vocally speaking with others. But I'll try.
Mouse2,
It's good that you have shared your experience as my experience did not have a good outcome.
I hope that in schools these days there are real supports in place for people who need it.
Hi Abi, I'm female and had issues at school. I couldnt make friends and would eat lunch alone most times. Home life wasent the best if I'm honest. I didnt know that I was autistic when I was at school as I managed I guess. Average grades but I studied hard on my own at home. I'd talk to people at school but never had friends I could rely on. It's hard but as you get older you may find that one good friend or find ways to fill that void. Like I now go see a band in my local if I'm lonely and that's my socialising for a week or more and I'm content with that