Hello. Am I in for a world of pain?

Hello all. 

I just wanted to introduce myself to this forum. I'm an early 30s parent. Me and my wife had our son two years ago. Our first child. Everything was perfect in our lives until we started noticing repetitive behaviour in our child. We noticed this a few weeks ago - hand flapping, constant spinning of car wheels, tip toeing, not responding to his name. He was actually doing this for ages but we had assumed his hand flap was a goodbye wage, for example. 

We have just started to look into diagnosis, such as seeing a paediatric, seeing a dietician. I've been disappointed at the waiting list. Is it just me or is everyone else also feeling the frustration? 

As a first time parent it comes as a shock, almost disbelief and the hard part is in readjusting my expectations for my son. I had all sorts of ideas of what father and son would do. It's so devastating. I started a blog because I had no way of releasing the pain than to write it. www.bestparenticanbe.com

Have you guys found a way to get your son or daughter diagnosed faster? We have been told a 2 year waiting list. My son is 2. Surely there must be something that can be done? Is it worth going private?

Any advice and experiences would be very very much appreciated.

I just want to feel strong about my child's future. It's devastating to think he may not get the same opportunities I did as a child.

Alex.