Hello all. I am new. My 7yo is on the spectrum. How can I best support him?

Hello everyone, 

I am new to this forum. I have a 7yo boy who is on the spectrum. We received a formal diagnosis a couple of months ago. It's been though on me and I have been in denial for a while as he has always been bright academically. He is very smart,  has a bubbly personality and wants to makes friends but lacks in social skills. He doesn't have many friends at school, is not invited to his peers birthday parties and is sad about it. We haven't discussed the diagnosis with him yet and his classmates are not aware.

When did you share the news with your child? with his/her classmates? Is 7yo not too early? 

Also what do you do after a diagnosis? I have enrolled in a course to get a better understanding on the asd  but I am clueless on the help that is available around. Do your children see psychologists regularly? Any information, suggestion would be very much appreciated!

Looking forward to your replies. Thank you!

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  • Hi My daughter is going to be 8 in a few days and we are trying to get her assessed, she is also bright but struggles with friends she has one and she is her sole focus which causes problems. 

    We have not discussed asd with her as she has no formal diagnosis and we didn't want her going in to school and saying something and it leading to bullying as she isn't diagnosed yet. We call it her "quirkiness"  she receives counselling in school for anxiety and the school are fully aware of her issues and limitations we have a support worker who meets with us regularly to help push for diagnosis. 

    I also work in the school and know there are several other children with asd who have been diagnosed and full disclosure made to classmates at the age of 5 now these children are in year 4 all these children are settled and as the other children have always know about the difference they don't see it as a problem as such we found the bullying doesn't happen (not saying it never will but hasn't yet) 

    Talk to your sons school see what is available from them and their ideas on disclosure also look for local support groups they can be very useful as full of parents that have been there, family support services can help with getting access to support 

    Its great you are doing an understanding autism course I myself have done this and several others, just remember that you are not alone and the people in this community are fantastic at helping you to understand behaviours and the thoughts behind them

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  • Hi My daughter is going to be 8 in a few days and we are trying to get her assessed, she is also bright but struggles with friends she has one and she is her sole focus which causes problems. 

    We have not discussed asd with her as she has no formal diagnosis and we didn't want her going in to school and saying something and it leading to bullying as she isn't diagnosed yet. We call it her "quirkiness"  she receives counselling in school for anxiety and the school are fully aware of her issues and limitations we have a support worker who meets with us regularly to help push for diagnosis. 

    I also work in the school and know there are several other children with asd who have been diagnosed and full disclosure made to classmates at the age of 5 now these children are in year 4 all these children are settled and as the other children have always know about the difference they don't see it as a problem as such we found the bullying doesn't happen (not saying it never will but hasn't yet) 

    Talk to your sons school see what is available from them and their ideas on disclosure also look for local support groups they can be very useful as full of parents that have been there, family support services can help with getting access to support 

    Its great you are doing an understanding autism course I myself have done this and several others, just remember that you are not alone and the people in this community are fantastic at helping you to understand behaviours and the thoughts behind them

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