Hi , my husband is on a waiting list for a diagnosis. We have been together for nearly 20 years and have 3 children ( i believe 2 of my children have Aspergers too but they are not diagnosed). My marriage is incredibly lonely and frustrating. I sometimes wonder if it would be worth divorcing.. I do love him and for this reason and for my children's wellbeing , i dismiss the idea of separating, however my personal wellbeing is very low . When i met my my husband i knew he was behaving differently in many ways and was socially awkward and unable to communicate, however he was very affectionate and i could feel we loved each other a lot. Slowly bu surely i noticed he was obsessed with hobbies like RPG and war games and would spent a fortune in books and gadgets, after I married him he lost his job and while pregnant of our second child he confessed he had debts of over £30,000!!! As he became severely depressed i needed to work, pay his monthly debts, look after the children and the family in every aspect, especially financially. I somehow coped and managed to pay back his debts over many years (he was unemployed for 10 years) , however after the birth of our third daughter he grew more and more distant and his lack of empathy is at times very cruel. I have been severely sick through all my pregnancies but he never helped me, to the point he couldn't see i was almost passing away and needed to go to A&E on my own. He is only interested in his hobbies and computer games and online chats , in fact he spends all days on his computer. We don't have any sexual relationship for the past 11 years, and when i talk about it he says he's impotent and he can't do anything. Although people say I am attractive, i have never betrayed him, despite of not having a real relationship.I feel is not interested and i wonder if he might be homosexual.As a couple we don't share much, i always arrange holidays and family outings for the kids,making sure they have everything they need and they feel happy. He is not involved in family life, i need to ask him to partecipare as he is only interested to his computer games and hobbies. He has only a couple of friends who belong to his same game groups and they are autistic too. Now that our children are teenagers we could go out on our own in the weekends (his family never helped ) but he's not interested , if i take him out he would eat quickly and wants to go back home. I have talked to him trying to explaini my expectations and my pain but he would fall asleep or lose attention , if i cry he stares at me and as soon as I walk away he laughs again in front of his computer. He wakes up very early even in the weekend to watch his videos and playing his games on the computer , i think he has a cyber life. Once i fell over and he walked past me to go back and save his computer game rather than helping me. I am totally invisible to him. I have mentioned to him i am considering divorcing and finally our GP assessed him and referred him for a diagnose. I am not sure i can go on with such a dysfunctional relationship ...I wonder if anyone could share their ideas/ advice...i was a very sociable and positive person but now i feel dead inside...sorry for writing too much and thank you for reading such a long post ...