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Worried about Depression

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Hi,

Over past few months, I seem to be getting angrier over less important things. Anger builds up so quickly into a rage and feeling very low. The autism team gave me a number to call, but I could not find it when I needed it.

Again this happened at a critical time when I should have paid attention to something else, which meant I have missed out on a nice evening out to a music event. Had been trying to get hold of a ticket for months, spent hours trying to track one down. 

I guess this is a "meltdown", just so focused and angry, and takes me a while to settle down myself to continue with normal things. Someone offered me the ticket I had spent so much time to find, but got their phone number to arrange collection just a few minutes after the last train left to get me to the event on time.

This has happened before on several times, I rarely go out, so is a big thing for me. Only go out 2-3 times a year, but whatever I look for all seems to happen around the same time in the year.

Getting really worried, how quickly my anger comes on, and how low I feel

  • The situations you describe, such as not being able to travel to a venue to collect tickets on time, or getting worked up about something and forgetting something you had meant to do, are inevitable. Simply - you aren't networked.

    NTs (neurotypical, non-autistic persons) seem to me, maybe to a varying extent, well supported by others who are looking out for them - which I think is one aspect of having a good network of friends. In the normal way of things someone would phone you and ask are you going to this night out, do you want a lift?  Or I hear so and so is also going, maybe you two could share a taxi.

    I know about networking because I see it happening for others, and it sometimes helps for me. But it cuts down my social outlets hugely. I don't go to things that I know are happening because nobody is reminding me or asking me if I'm going. Also I do get out doing things including some charity work and committee meetings for various things - but it doesn't do anything for me in the way of a network.

    Broadly I think I'm fairly self contained, but that seems to be why I miss out on networking. If I was NT I wouldn't be happy with my own company, and I'd constantly be phoning and texting and emailing to find out what's on, who else is going where. I think.... I'd have a twitter account etc. Watch the younger crowd these days, constantly on their mobiles - pining away if they have to go somewhere with poor connectivity. I only occasionally switch on my mobile - I've few likely callers or people to call.

    Social anxiety is something you can have as an NT, I think. So there may be a distinction between social anxiety as a part of autism (which is more likely to be due to sensory issues and socialising skills) and social anxiety as often reported by non-autistics, which is probably worry about failing, or making a fool of themselves, or being shy

  • Hi,

    I have heard the term social anxiety in the past and can relate to it;

    After the diagnosis, I feel it is all part of my aspergers, is social anxiety distinct from aspergers ?

  • Sounds painful to live with, my son struggles in a similar way. He has some friends who used to include him and perciviered even when he didn't respond for months. Do you have any family or friends that include you in their arrangements, it's certainly easier to plan ahead and get tickets when you're a crowd. 

    Do you have social anxiety?