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Worried about Depression

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Hi,

Over past few months, I seem to be getting angrier over less important things. Anger builds up so quickly into a rage and feeling very low. The autism team gave me a number to call, but I could not find it when I needed it.

Again this happened at a critical time when I should have paid attention to something else, which meant I have missed out on a nice evening out to a music event. Had been trying to get hold of a ticket for months, spent hours trying to track one down. 

I guess this is a "meltdown", just so focused and angry, and takes me a while to settle down myself to continue with normal things. Someone offered me the ticket I had spent so much time to find, but got their phone number to arrange collection just a few minutes after the last train left to get me to the event on time.

This has happened before on several times, I rarely go out, so is a big thing for me. Only go out 2-3 times a year, but whatever I look for all seems to happen around the same time in the year.

Getting really worried, how quickly my anger comes on, and how low I feel

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  • The situations you describe, such as not being able to travel to a venue to collect tickets on time, or getting worked up about something and forgetting something you had meant to do, are inevitable. Simply - you aren't networked.

    NTs (neurotypical, non-autistic persons) seem to me, maybe to a varying extent, well supported by others who are looking out for them - which I think is one aspect of having a good network of friends. In the normal way of things someone would phone you and ask are you going to this night out, do you want a lift?  Or I hear so and so is also going, maybe you two could share a taxi.

    I know about networking because I see it happening for others, and it sometimes helps for me. But it cuts down my social outlets hugely. I don't go to things that I know are happening because nobody is reminding me or asking me if I'm going. Also I do get out doing things including some charity work and committee meetings for various things - but it doesn't do anything for me in the way of a network.

    Broadly I think I'm fairly self contained, but that seems to be why I miss out on networking. If I was NT I wouldn't be happy with my own company, and I'd constantly be phoning and texting and emailing to find out what's on, who else is going where. I think.... I'd have a twitter account etc. Watch the younger crowd these days, constantly on their mobiles - pining away if they have to go somewhere with poor connectivity. I only occasionally switch on my mobile - I've few likely callers or people to call.

    Social anxiety is something you can have as an NT, I think. So there may be a distinction between social anxiety as a part of autism (which is more likely to be due to sensory issues and socialising skills) and social anxiety as often reported by non-autistics, which is probably worry about failing, or making a fool of themselves, or being shy

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  • The situations you describe, such as not being able to travel to a venue to collect tickets on time, or getting worked up about something and forgetting something you had meant to do, are inevitable. Simply - you aren't networked.

    NTs (neurotypical, non-autistic persons) seem to me, maybe to a varying extent, well supported by others who are looking out for them - which I think is one aspect of having a good network of friends. In the normal way of things someone would phone you and ask are you going to this night out, do you want a lift?  Or I hear so and so is also going, maybe you two could share a taxi.

    I know about networking because I see it happening for others, and it sometimes helps for me. But it cuts down my social outlets hugely. I don't go to things that I know are happening because nobody is reminding me or asking me if I'm going. Also I do get out doing things including some charity work and committee meetings for various things - but it doesn't do anything for me in the way of a network.

    Broadly I think I'm fairly self contained, but that seems to be why I miss out on networking. If I was NT I wouldn't be happy with my own company, and I'd constantly be phoning and texting and emailing to find out what's on, who else is going where. I think.... I'd have a twitter account etc. Watch the younger crowd these days, constantly on their mobiles - pining away if they have to go somewhere with poor connectivity. I only occasionally switch on my mobile - I've few likely callers or people to call.

    Social anxiety is something you can have as an NT, I think. So there may be a distinction between social anxiety as a part of autism (which is more likely to be due to sensory issues and socialising skills) and social anxiety as often reported by non-autistics, which is probably worry about failing, or making a fool of themselves, or being shy

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