Recently self-diagnosed, and lonely because I've been single for a long time, I feel like I'm undateable

I saw this video earlier. it gets a bit off topic at the end but it certainly explains a phenomena I've witnessed and briefly taken part in. 

Now, I have adapted to surmount the problems that the narrator highlights, but my bloodline still dies with me, as our generations children "en masse" do not want to bear children, and I did nto have enough chidren it seems... 

As the video points out, this seems to be predominantly a "white" thing and that could lead to a whole set of contentiousness which I'd like to avoid, the intent of my post is to show the Author of this topic whether male or female that in part their current situation is a product of the 1960's "experimental sexual revolution", where "traditional" ways of managing the pairing up of people were dsmantled and discarded for a new model which has the shortcomings that the video highlights very well.

If you can do arithmetic in your head, when you get to the 20% 80% bit you can see that the current system statistically guarantees an unsatisfactory set of romantic relationships for the majority of people, for most of the time, and is very disruptive to the timings needed to sucessfully start and raise a family. 

If we want the more peaceful and less "grabby" members of society to be the majority (kinda what you need in order to share resources fairly in a highly complex society such as we have) then how does our current system promote that? Humans need to reproduce when they are YOUNG and have suffient energy to hunter gather for themselves and their infants in simple mammal terms..

Our western societies seem to now effectively prevent that for all but the most accomplished or genetically "lucky"... 

See for yourself: https://old.bitchute.com/video/bV66MsDErPb6/

I'm lucky enough to have some good friends who are able to put up with me lol but my hope of finding love has pretty much died a death!

Just do it coz it’s fun - the gigging. It’s hard work. Like relationships.  takes a lot out of you and makes you vulnerable - that’s a lot to navigate, I reckon and I reckon I know how you mean undatable… I’ve been there and am… but if there are others out there then you’re just being busy taking steps forward? 

Hope? Friends? New things? Support? 

wishing you those x

There's no classes I'm interested in taking, and I have my hobbies and passions - music, background acting, gaming etc - hopefully once my band starts gigging someone'll finally have a reason to be interested in me, but I'm pretty much past getting my hopes up

I think classes and pursuing interests are a good way forward? I did a songwriting course years ago and that was challenging and for me out of the house….as for the me now though - not easy to follow my own advice

IMy favourites are Sims 4, Fallout 4, Assassins Creed Odyssey, Valhalla & Origins, and Hogwarts Legacy. I haven't played any of your favourites in afraid. I play on an Xbox - what platform do you use?

Yeah, you're right, it is definitely hard for me to find a suitable partner, I feel as if I'm just too weird, and too "out there" - all my life I've felt like I'm on the wrong planet. Which is why I came here lol

I love Broken Sword, Super Mario, the Telltale Games, Silent Hill, Resident Evil etc but my favourite has to be Zelda. Right now I'm playing Tears of the Kingdom, and I think it's shaping up to be the best yet 

Thanks for sharing. I am female and one of my main interests is video gaming, which is still very rare for a woman in her sixties, so I cannot talk about that interest with other women (particularly ones in my age group) So I learnt to develop what small interest I had in things that other women like, such as clothes and hairstyles, to use in small talk, to ask about other things they might have in common with me, such as do they like reading fiction, and to let them take the lead in conversation by keeping asking questions about what they talk about.

If you really cannot find any common ground with someone the friendship/relationship is unlikely to work. It might help to try to find a group to join that does activities you enjoy, if that's possible, so you meet others you can share stuff with.

I'm lucky in that I met my partner through mutual friends and we clicked pretty soon after meeting, but lots of people have difficulties finding a suitable partner - whether autistic or not.

I find this forum useful to share my interests - there is always someone who likes the same thing, so I hope it makes you feel less lonely.

You mention games as one of your interests - which are your favourites?

Plus, I'm overly passionate about my favourite films/TV shows, music, games and franchises (e.g. Star Wars, James Bond, Batman, DC, Marvel, etc) so much so that I can't do without them, and, although I'm not a chatty person in general, I tend to bang on whenever talking with someone about my interests

Hi. I'm in my late 30s, still living with my mother (well, technically she lives with me now because she doesn't work anymore), working part-time in retail, cos that way I'm able to do the things I love (music, background acting) but it's hard to make a living out of them

Welcome, perhaps you could tell us more about yourself?