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Day 1 : Feeling both optimistic and terrified

Dogtooth

So,

Im going to be 100% honest here. 

Those that know me know i have addiction issues, and not just a little bit. I am fed up with having the meltdowns like last week. Yesterday was my 14 year anniversary so me and my wife went for dinner and a few drinks. 

She knows about my issues, but knows i am trying, so she supports rather than scolds me. When we got home i found a reason to 'pop' out and bought some cocaine. Not proud, but the truth. 

I have finished it, and have no substances or alcohol in the house. Im at work sitting at my desk with the usual train of thoughts going round my head and i made a decision. 100 days totally sober. 

Ive text my wife and told her and she agrees it will be a good idea and is going to join me. 

So this is it. Hour 1 of day 1. 

Its quite nice in a way to think this could be the last comedown i ever have. 

Wish me luck. 

Dog

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  • Hello everyone, 

    So i failed miserably and am back at day 1. 

    I have a little exit bag i keep with everything in it for a pain free, guaranteed goodbye. Saturday i was seriously considering it for the first time in a long time. Before anyone feels the need to pull the alarm bell, my psychiatrist and therapist are aware and its being managed. 

    Im not saying this for sympathy, or attention. Just that i let myself and everyone down and am thinking maybe i am just a junkie. Maybe im one that cant be helped. 

    Anyway im still here. A little less hopeful and a little more broken but here nonetheless. 

    So dont even worry ok. What will be will be. i am taking another run at this. Im not being flippant on purpose. I am taking it seriously. Im just exhausted and beaten right now. 

    Sorry everyone. 

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  • Hello everyone, 

    So i failed miserably and am back at day 1. 

    I have a little exit bag i keep with everything in it for a pain free, guaranteed goodbye. Saturday i was seriously considering it for the first time in a long time. Before anyone feels the need to pull the alarm bell, my psychiatrist and therapist are aware and its being managed. 

    Im not saying this for sympathy, or attention. Just that i let myself and everyone down and am thinking maybe i am just a junkie. Maybe im one that cant be helped. 

    Anyway im still here. A little less hopeful and a little more broken but here nonetheless. 

    So dont even worry ok. What will be will be. i am taking another run at this. Im not being flippant on purpose. I am taking it seriously. Im just exhausted and beaten right now. 

    Sorry everyone. 

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  • in reply to Dogtooth

    The most important thing is that you're back, not that you're back at day 1. Start again. We're not judging.

    It seems that weekends are the danger zones for you. I think you also mentioned you were going to be alone at the weekend, which adds to the danger.

    Next time you know you're going to be alone over a weekend, potentially vulnerable to a relapse, why not take yourself away somewhere. Maybe something random like a yoga retreat or art workshop in a location in the middle of nowhere, somewhere you will have some distraction and there are others around to be accountable to.

  • in reply to Dogtooth

    sometimes it is only when you have sunk so low that your feet touch down on the bottom of the sea and you get to realise the only way is up.

    Feel the bottom (oh err missus!) and swim. It gets better.

  • in reply to Dogtooth

    Dogtooth, you have no reason to apologise to us.

    I think the way you're feeling is understandable, but try to cut yourself some slack and stop being so hard on yourself. We haven't given up on you, so please don't give up on yourself.

    Sending you virtual hugs, and just to say that I'm relieved you're still here.