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When to start dating again? Wait till healthy lifestyle and body shape is attained?

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I have started working quite late in my life. Till last year, I was in grad school and was quite occupied with research and publishing stuffs. Dating was not a priority and the last proper date I have been to was in 2018.

Now that I have a decent employment, I would like to attend to other aspects of my life a.k.a relationships. However, I have a problem. I have become quite out of shape over the past few years, and I feel self-conscious about my body.

In 2 years, I have gained 10 Kgs  So, I don't feel attractive or confident about myself.

So, is there a point to start dating or spend 7-8 months getting back in decent shape before getting into dating again?

  • Never feel you have to be "In shape" to date. Western society puts so many unrealisitic standards of beauty on us. All bodies are beautiful, there is no right or wrong shape.
    Lots of people I know, myself included, prefer a partner with a curvier body. Just be yourself and the right person will like you for you 

  • No, don't put stuff on hold for weight loss. You don't need to lose weight to have success in dating or to feel attractive and confident. It's in the mind.

    Keep in mind that around 40-50% of people in the UK gained weight during lockdown so you're not alone. I gained 20kg during lockdown; stopped working, had major surgery, two family funerals, some other bad stuff. Although I would like to lose the weight, the weight doesn't determine how I feel about myself. I actually feel more comfortable in my body now than I ever have in my life. My girlfriend is completely happy with me and my body as well.

  • Every. Single. Person. Has. Insecurities. Don’t wait to find love or let you hold yourself back. I guarantee you, whoever you meet will have deep-seated insecurities of their own. You deserve genuine love and affection no matter azar.pro what.

  • In those 8 months you might miss the love of your life. If they love you curves and all why should you insist they wait until you've lot the weight.

  • The point to start dating is when there is somebody you want to date. 

    I like things in my life to be done in order. Job. Tick. Then do house. Tick. Only then desired personal project, say holiday. Tick. One thing at a time in order of priority; responsibility first only then, fun.

    But, in truth by my late 50s, I've finally got it through my head that life is too short. I have missed out because opportunities; romantic ones included, turned up before I'd ticked the other boxes.

    Never mind the weight. If you want to get in shape. Great. Go for it. Meanwhile, if you stumble upon that fabulous someone tomorrow, don't hesitate because you haven't yet reached the weight goal. If that person likes you too, they probably aren't looking at the couple of extra pounds anyway. Who knows you might meet them doing whatever activity you undertake to get in shape. They might be doing the same.