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When to start dating again? Wait till healthy lifestyle and body shape is attained?

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I have started working quite late in my life. Till last year, I was in grad school and was quite occupied with research and publishing stuffs. Dating was not a priority and the last proper date I have been to was in 2018.

Now that I have a decent employment, I would like to attend to other aspects of my life a.k.a relationships. However, I have a problem. I have become quite out of shape over the past few years, and I feel self-conscious about my body.

In 2 years, I have gained 10 Kgs  So, I don't feel attractive or confident about myself.

So, is there a point to start dating or spend 7-8 months getting back in decent shape before getting into dating again?

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  • The point to start dating is when there is somebody you want to date. 

    I like things in my life to be done in order. Job. Tick. Then do house. Tick. Only then desired personal project, say holiday. Tick. One thing at a time in order of priority; responsibility first only then, fun.

    But, in truth by my late 50s, I've finally got it through my head that life is too short. I have missed out because opportunities; romantic ones included, turned up before I'd ticked the other boxes.

    Never mind the weight. If you want to get in shape. Great. Go for it. Meanwhile, if you stumble upon that fabulous someone tomorrow, don't hesitate because you haven't yet reached the weight goal. If that person likes you too, they probably aren't looking at the couple of extra pounds anyway. Who knows you might meet them doing whatever activity you undertake to get in shape. They might be doing the same.

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  • The point to start dating is when there is somebody you want to date. 

    I like things in my life to be done in order. Job. Tick. Then do house. Tick. Only then desired personal project, say holiday. Tick. One thing at a time in order of priority; responsibility first only then, fun.

    But, in truth by my late 50s, I've finally got it through my head that life is too short. I have missed out because opportunities; romantic ones included, turned up before I'd ticked the other boxes.

    Never mind the weight. If you want to get in shape. Great. Go for it. Meanwhile, if you stumble upon that fabulous someone tomorrow, don't hesitate because you haven't yet reached the weight goal. If that person likes you too, they probably aren't looking at the couple of extra pounds anyway. Who knows you might meet them doing whatever activity you undertake to get in shape. They might be doing the same.

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