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Cassandraa

I'm upset at the moment. It's not been a great week for me.... I went to work on Monday and a little girl fell over and started crying, so I gave her a hug to comfort her and her mum totally lost it with me. She called me names, shouted at me, told me I could give her daughter covid... It was horrible and then on Tuesday when I saw her again she went for me again. She told me to stay away from her daughter. I said sorry so many times but she's also emailed the school complaining about me... So I've quit, I suffer from severe anxiety and this was the only job I was able to get and I really loved it but now it's been ruined for me and I'm so anxious again. Really upset about that. I didn't intend to cause any upset I just wanted to comfort the little girl because she was upset. I feel like a bad person now and can't figure out if I did right or wrong there. It felt right at the time but maybe I was wrong, I don't know now.

But I'm now jobless and my parents are on my case which is unfortunate. They've never understood autism and my anxiety, they think I should get over it but it's just not that simple... I've tried but I can't. It's a part of me, I'm a part of it. I went to see a doctor before and they just tried to give me lots of pills which made the symptoms worse.

Just when things were going so well and now everything's fallen apart. I'll struggle to get another job now, especially one I enjoy.

I'm so upset right now.

  • Dawn 5,

    Sorry to hear this, but know that you chose the right by choosing kindness to comfort the daughter, if the mother does not redress her wrongs and take her complaint back she will suffer through bitterness, she will keep feeding it and things will only get more bitter for her.

     The joy we feel in our lives has very little to do with the circumstances of our lives, but everything to do with the focus of our lives. Be careful what you choose to focus your life on, I hope you recover and feel better sooner rather than later.

  • Never quit.

    If the worst comes to the worst, let someone else fire you.

  • Hi I'm ok. Bad week, I had to go to hospital and now I'm under review by shrinks. I wish the professionals would just back of and leave me alone. I find that "professionals" understand nothing about autism. It's like they just guess at everything.

    I'll be on and of I guess.

    Tc.

  • in reply to PersonAnon

    I know yes that's what I thought. She could have behaved a little better and more adult with this. I thought that to. Not a lot of support no, defo no friends because of my anxiety and non existent social skills. I do talk to Samaritans a lot and that can be helpful and supportive for me.

  • in reply to Martin

    Yeah like I understand her reaction because covid is serious but I did try to explain but she didn't listen and just shouted at me didn't give me chance to explain myself and it just triggered the anxiety and I'm still anxious now. I won't go back now after such a bad experience. Shame because I was happy there but it's wrecked for me now.

  • What a horrible week for you, I am so sorry you're going through this.  Hysterical parents seem to be a fact of life in schools, nowadays. It would have been perfectly possible for her to register any concerns in a reasonable and professional way.  Have you got any personal support / friends?

  • Firstly, the child's mother overreacted to the incident to a ridiculous extent, she is the one most at fault. The present form of Covid, Omicron, is definitely much less dangerous than previous variants. In addition, there is a huge amount of evidence that Covid in general, tends to have symptomless or very mild symptoms in young children. It was far more likely that you would catch Covid from a symptomless child, than the other way around. I know how easy it is for autistic people to react very negatively to criticism and that we feel being placed in a position of being in the wrong much more deeply than most neurotypicals. However, I think that you did nothing very culpable, and that approaching your former employers with an explanation of the situation and that you posed no real threat to the child might be worthwhile, and get your job back.