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Cassandraa

I'm upset at the moment. It's not been a great week for me.... I went to work on Monday and a little girl fell over and started crying, so I gave her a hug to comfort her and her mum totally lost it with me. She called me names, shouted at me, told me I could give her daughter covid... It was horrible and then on Tuesday when I saw her again she went for me again. She told me to stay away from her daughter. I said sorry so many times but she's also emailed the school complaining about me... So I've quit, I suffer from severe anxiety and this was the only job I was able to get and I really loved it but now it's been ruined for me and I'm so anxious again. Really upset about that. I didn't intend to cause any upset I just wanted to comfort the little girl because she was upset. I feel like a bad person now and can't figure out if I did right or wrong there. It felt right at the time but maybe I was wrong, I don't know now.

But I'm now jobless and my parents are on my case which is unfortunate. They've never understood autism and my anxiety, they think I should get over it but it's just not that simple... I've tried but I can't. It's a part of me, I'm a part of it. I went to see a doctor before and they just tried to give me lots of pills which made the symptoms worse.

Just when things were going so well and now everything's fallen apart. I'll struggle to get another job now, especially one I enjoy.

I'm so upset right now.

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  • Firstly, the child's mother overreacted to the incident to a ridiculous extent, she is the one most at fault. The present form of Covid, Omicron, is definitely much less dangerous than previous variants. In addition, there is a huge amount of evidence that Covid in general, tends to have symptomless or very mild symptoms in young children. It was far more likely that you would catch Covid from a symptomless child, than the other way around. I know how easy it is for autistic people to react very negatively to criticism and that we feel being placed in a position of being in the wrong much more deeply than most neurotypicals. However, I think that you did nothing very culpable, and that approaching your former employers with an explanation of the situation and that you posed no real threat to the child might be worthwhile, and get your job back. 

  • in reply to Martin

    Yeah like I understand her reaction because covid is serious but I did try to explain but she didn't listen and just shouted at me didn't give me chance to explain myself and it just triggered the anxiety and I'm still anxious now. I won't go back now after such a bad experience. Shame because I was happy there but it's wrecked for me now.

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  • in reply to Martin

    Yeah like I understand her reaction because covid is serious but I did try to explain but she didn't listen and just shouted at me didn't give me chance to explain myself and it just triggered the anxiety and I'm still anxious now. I won't go back now after such a bad experience. Shame because I was happy there but it's wrecked for me now.

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