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neighbour with asperger's syndrome

NAS71806

Dear Who ever can help,

We have been living in a maisonette for 7 years in Edgware HA8 and have endured continuous issues of undue noise, disturbance and harassment (even the fact of swearing at my wife and daughter) from the tenant above who has Asperger's. It has been causing a lot of issues for my family and we have spoken to the police and local council, the tenant is in his 50s and has been there for along time, we own the property and are not going to sell due to his behaviour, Yes I have read up about the Syndrome and understand, but what i don't understand is if he doesn't like noise why is he living on a busy road and above people.

any advice would be greatly received, maybe you have gone through the same scenario or you can just give advice. 

thank you in advance,  

Jonny

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    Thank you for your response, Unfortunately there is no speaking to him, he runs away and puts his hands over his ears, it has got to the stage where it is coursing friction in my family relationship. I am really stuck here... i will see if the dairy helps. Thank you.

  • Bare with me, but you could (for the purpose of clearer understanding - it may help but not equate to change and stating this is important) ask him to create a breakdown on the expectations and responsibilities according his understanding of the ethics, codes and legalities of 1. renting, 2. renting a property near a busy road on top of neighbours. This may seem a bit dramatic, but he may actually really enjoy writing all this down and doing the research. Also, maybe make sure he's not subjected to LEDs in his flat. Some owners will take out transformers and only have LEDs. It's worth it for everyone to make sure he's still using incandescent and halogen (I can't stress this enough). The most important part here is that he consider ethics/aesthetics. Sometimes it's a missing element that would bring everyone a great deal less stress. Many people with ASD have not been afforded or taught proper boundaries and do not know when they're being crossed, therefore do not know when they're crossing them. Just a thought!! 

  • in reply to Plastic

    i have just sent of a 14 day dairy to the environmentalhealth@barnet.gov.uk so let see what happens thank you again, jonny 

  • in reply to NAS71806

    I'm not suggesting you are - but others might so protect yourself and be seen to be fair.     

    The council environmental health department look after noise complaints - make a formal complaint to them - they can threaten a fine and eventually, force an eviction.   

    I think it's probably the police for reporting threatening behaviour - but they can be useless - it's often too much hassle for them..

  • in reply to Plastic

    Thank you for your response, i am not discriminating at all against him, i just want my family to be happy. I will ask the landlord to send me copy of the contract, but i doubt they will as they don't care, they just get their money. 

  • An a-hole is still an a-hole -  Asperger's or not.     Be careful because it could be claimed you are discriminating against him so build your fact-based evidence for any complaint fairly so it forces them to act against him rather than you.

    Some people won't like this - but there's a lot of us who self-medicate with alcohol / drugs to get through the day - that could be to your advantage.

    Are you able to get a copy of the landlord's standard tenancy agreement - that will give you clues to how you can deal with the problem and which parts of the agreement that he's breaking.

    Remember that covid is preventing any evictions right now but it doesn't stop you gathering evidence.

    Good luck.