Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello, I'm having to go out on my own now and I'm scared. My dad has died and now that I'm 18 I have to do things for myself and I don't know what to do first. There's the house, mortgage to do which I don't understand at all! It's all so crazy and hard to accept. I hate the change, I hate everything
1. Breathe
2. Don't forget to eat, sounds silly but many don't notice hunger in the sea of emotions following a loss.
3. Understanding what is going on/needs to be done takes a lot of the stress and anxiety out of things, In UK I'd suggest making a list and then going to Citizens advice, US equivalent I think is legal aid.
4. Things will get better
Thank you. I'm not eating the best but I am eating some stuff.
Nice.
I recall I was living on minimal prep foods when I lost parents, little things like having raw carrot alongside the microwave meals and adding berries to cereal really helped.
Yes, having learnt this from an appropriate source, and with the context of compassionate awareness alongside resilience (or tonglen) that is normally left out of basic 15 week courses (which is a dangerous imbalance) I am not affected by the current campaign of gaslighting.
but you think its safe telling people not to go to a therapist for mindfulness and telling them to go to a buddhist instead...great logic
Hello Angel, really sorry to hear about your Dad. My Dad also passed away some years ago, it can be too much to bear, can't it? I cried a lot.
Who is around in your life, does your sister live with you too? are you able to help each other ?