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Am I weird? Advice needed!!

Jessicaaaaa

Hi all, 

I know this is a bit of an awkward topic but I always come on here when I am worried about something and I always seem to get the most helpful advice from you all so. I am currently 16 - I have high functioning autism, aspergers - and I haven't done anything sexually. I feel like a load of girls in my year have and I am feeling really left behind. I have absolutely no interest in doing anything sexual - life is stressful and confusing enough as it is - but I don't want people to think I am weird. I don't even like thinking about it and I can't speak to my mum and dad about it because it's awkward. I was recently with a boy, who when I said no to sending nudes, called me frigid. I am now dead worried that boys think of me like that - even though teenage boys can be dead annoying, not all though- just because I want to wait. Ant advice? Do you think I'm weird? 

Thanks x

  • Teenagers lie. A lot. Especially about sex. 

    You are completely right not to send nudes. Once they leave your phone, you lose any control over them. And teenage boys are a breed apart - I vaguely recall I used to be one - many decades ago. They are likely to pass around nudes to assuage their crushing social insecurity.

    Boys that age are really complete and utter morons, and not worth currying favour with. After school it gets much better. If you opt for university - you get to choose your social circle and can gravitate to people who accept you are you are. You might find a soulmate you want to do something sexual with - which would be nice, or you could be perfectly happy with platonic friendships. 

    Don't do anything sexual that you do not want to do. It won't win you friends or gain you respect. 

    And if you think social relationships are hard enough to understand now, when there is a sexual component, it gets way weirder. Please wait to find that out for yourself though. 

    All teenagers are a seething mass of insecurities. They are all weird. ASD just makes you self conscious of your differences. Paraphrase the end of the Breakfast Club to come up with trite soundbite - although quoting a film released before you were born is probably not the best reference.  

  • Hi i think you have had some very sound advice but there is something else i would like to add please be very careful with pictures of a sexual nature there are laws surrounding sending nudes of an underage person or to an underaged person as binary said don't send pictuers of yourself that could cause you embarrassment or harm ignore boys who ask you will regret it if you fall prey to peer pressure take your time and do what feels right to you

  • No you’re not weird. If you’re not interested in doing anything sexual yet then why should you? The boy probably just said you were frigid as he was annoyed that he wasn’t getting his own way or he was hoping to be able to pressurise you into agreeing. Teenage girls also have a habit of grossly exaggerating their sexual experiences, for example when I was 14 i remember it being common ‘knowledge’ that a girl in my year, the ‘well hard’ girl, had had sex with 22 people, she never denied it and at the time I believed it. However, now at the age of 38, I’m very doubtful that it was true. She probably made it up to help promote her image as being cool and ‘well hard’. Most of these girls who claim to have had various sexual experiences, they haven’t, they’re just making it up to portray the image that they want to portray to other people. It’s your body so please don’t ever feel that you have to do anything sexual before you are ready as you would just regret it. 

  • Jesica

    you are NOT weird, don’t ever think that.

    just because your friends are doing something dosnt mean you have to, also i wouldn’t be suprised if those around you are just saying they have done things just to fit in. Any boy who pushes you is not worth it.

    please don’t think your weird you are not

    x