Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all,
I know this is a bit of an awkward topic but I always come on here when I am worried about something and I always seem to get the most helpful advice from you all so. I am currently 16 - I have high functioning autism, aspergers - and I haven't done anything sexually. I feel like a load of girls in my year have and I am feeling really left behind. I have absolutely no interest in doing anything sexual - life is stressful and confusing enough as it is - but I don't want people to think I am weird. I don't even like thinking about it and I can't speak to my mum and dad about it because it's awkward. I was recently with a boy, who when I said no to sending nudes, called me frigid. I am now dead worried that boys think of me like that - even though teenage boys can be dead annoying, not all though- just because I want to wait. Ant advice? Do you think I'm weird?
Thanks x
No you’re not weird. If you’re not interested in doing anything sexual yet then why should you? The boy probably just said you were frigid as he was annoyed that he wasn’t getting his own way or he was hoping to be able to pressurise you into agreeing. Teenage girls also have a habit of grossly exaggerating their sexual experiences, for example when I was 14 i remember it being common ‘knowledge’ that a girl in my year, the ‘well hard’ girl, had had sex with 22 people, she never denied it and at the time I believed it. However, now at the age of 38, I’m very doubtful that it was true. She probably made it up to help promote her image as being cool and ‘well hard’. Most of these girls who claim to have had various sexual experiences, they haven’t, they’re just making it up to portray the image that they want to portray to other people. It’s your body so please don’t ever feel that you have to do anything sexual before you are ready as you would just regret it.