Hi my question is this can someone explain to my why I feel like it’s normal for me to want to wet n mess myself everyday even tho there’s nothing with my body or got a need for this regression except for I feel it’s right that it should happen but I don’t know the reason for why and so please can someone help explain and talk to me as often as possible about this as I feel it’s going to take a long time for me to understand please.
I think that you would find it more helpful to discuss this with people who feel the same as you.
There is a forum here that may interest you.
I’m not an ABDL I’m just an autistic who does similar things to them but not the correct things
I’m also asking for people to find me people to talk daily who knows exactly what is happening to me
I'd say Graham's suggestion is a good one. He's found another forum to explore, that may help more with some of your issues than we can here.
Even if you don't 'identify' as 'ABDL', these are the people who will know most about your questions over practicalities we mentioned like hygienic disposal of nappies, and also I would say most about 'coming out' or broaching the subject and disclosing with family. It's interesting from one of the pages I found on 'ABDL' that ABDLs see themselves on their own spectrum: it's not a sexual thing for many of them.
On the psychological aspects, you may be right and it is could be related to your autism. We tried our best to explain the reasons on the earlier thread. There were about six different possible explanations there, so it's up to you to take your pick! Just because we're autistic doesn't mean we have an insight into every possible autistic interest or difficulty.
It occurs to me that wanting to 'mess yourself' is pretty analogous to an eating disorder like bulimia, that it is hard to talk about (and which can provoke both concern and some disgust). It's very hard to explain why people make themselves sick or restrict their diets so much that their life is in danger. It's quite mysterious to those who don't experience it.
I recently heard that 20% of people with an eating disorder are autistic. That may mean you're more likely to find people who are autistic in an eating disorder group, than people with eating disorders in an autistic group. What's interesting is that the reasons for autistic people developing an eating disorder are different from neurotypical people with an eating disorder: for example, they're not much affected by conventional images of being 'slim'.
So I think while the psychological reasons may be different from NTs, and it's important to acknowledge that, both anorexia and liking to wear nappies are specialisms in their own right.
Anyway, I hope you find both professional help and people who are in a similar situation.
AnominousBartonian said:I’m also asking for people to find me people to talk daily who knows exactly what is happening to me
That may take some time. I'd suggest a clinical psychologist is best to provide the initial explanation.
I don’t have eating disorders or anything that explains why I want to mess plus after seing a doctor yesterday they said they don’t even know any actions to my problems the only thing I can think is accept all what been said and basically allow the issue of wanting to mess n wet to take place and not allow it to be an issue because I know it’s a non sexual reason or a fetish I just think give up and let whatever happens happens
Well acceptance is good, because it's happening anyway. And it sounds like you are beginning to understand it.
I wasn't suggesting you had an eating disorder. I was making an analogy. I was comparing wanting to wear nappies to an eating disorder, in terms of both being difficult to explain, and both possibly having different, less recognised, reasons for autistic people.
I hope that you get the answer that will help you with this issue you have.
Have you considered the possibility that your issue may have something to do with emotional deprivation as much as autism?
If the idea of wanting to be cared for makes sense, well then.....there is a possible answer for you. Mothers can be stressed and underworked and overpaid, resent the 24-hour job motherhood involves, or be full of expectations about when it is time to outgrow these things.
If not.....I know I read the autobiography of Donna Williams, where she claimed messing the carpet was a way of showing that She Was There.
But the other links others are pointing to may have other ideas that may make more sense to you. Only you can canswer your own question at the end of the day.
think I’ve semi sorted the issue but it’s going to take a long time to adjust that’s y I’ve not been online as I’ve been sorting things out