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motivation

blueblood

so i struggle with self doubts and stress and etc. and i was wondering what any of you do to get over it because i'm looking for motivation so i can try to make friends or get a date.....but i'm just looking for inspiration.

  • in reply to Thoughts and Prayers

    Doesn’t look like a lion! Lion face...but I’ll take your word for it! Lol..enjoy your red lion

  • in reply to blueblood

    I saw the psychiatrist yesterday and he agrees I am bipolar. The week after my gp referred me for an assessment I discovered three or four people who were autistic and bipolar so it is definitely possible if uncommon.

  • in reply to Taltunes

     i know for sure i have autism because i was given an official diagnoses and i still have all the signs but now that you mention bipolar i am like that a lot so perhaps i have both?

  • This is a left-field suggestion and I could be biased but could you be bipolar as well as or instead of being autistic?

    i can really struggle with motivation for years at a time but have short periods of weeks when motivation is not a problem - if anything I become too motivated.

    i finally convinced a doctor to refer me for an assessment three weeks ago.

    i am currently in what they call a manic phase and have no self-doubts or stress (or if I do have them I can quickly regain my balance)

    as far as stress is concerned I can recommend tai chi but any exercise will really help - it's just a case of finding something you enjoy

    haven't made any dates yet but that is partly because it would not be fair to get a date when I am manic if they have not also known me while I have been in a depressive phase. I would also like to find someone who has at least one interest in common. (Yes, the point of a first date is to see if you have anything in common but I just feel that someone is more likely to accept my autism let alone my bipolar if they have an interest in common.) finally it is hard when I am in a manic phase but it would not be the end of the world if I end up spending all of my life alone.

  • 'Looking for inspiration'. I doubt you'll find it through self-examination or rumination, but I find reading a good book can distract from those self-doubts. Ask people you know for help with the causes of the stress. Have patience making friends, but the resolution that helped me was to take every opportunity. Check out local events, Meetup.com for things you're interested in or might become interested in. Maybe some volunteering or GoodGym, just to prove to yourself that you can do it and give you something to talk about. Sometimes motivation comes after the event - 'feel the fear and do it anyway'.