What keeps you fighting?

Big aspie appropriate hug Elie!

My faith community are not evangelical, so even talking about faith seems a disrespectful thing to do :-)

I've got this strange notion that there is purpose, reason and meaning regardless of how irrational and awful things are on a day to day basis. Have had less than a handful of profound spiritual moments in my 45 year journey, but for me that ultimately keeps me going.

That and sheer bloody mindedness. 

On the bus home from day 1 of 2 of a course on parenting with autism. We as expected are the only parents dealing with a late diagnosis on the course, but significantly we've got a woman from a specialist employment agency on the course. I can imagine in two years time arranging for SD16 to meet with her to look at options.

Some eye opening moments around some strategies for setting healthy boundaries and house rules for both our ASD and ADHD SDs. I've been wrestling for months over SD20 not completing tasks, so when she comes back she gets overwhelmed. We were given an idea of traffic lights as  amber:"still stuff to do but almost done" and red: task done.

It might help her see the benefits of working beyond amber to get ready for the next green light.

Bloody mindedness is definitely an necessity...

if you ever had a small pet like a hamster when you were growing up....you'd know that if you moved or changed their bedding then they would spend the rest of the day putting said bedding back in order....

the average day is like that, sometimes....hamster bedding ruffled...panic.,..furiously putting in back in order....and then...REPEAT....lol

I had a pet rat called Ratus (Latin for Rat) and he was a mammoth mover of bedding.

I've realized recently my FOO gave me a huge gift: self belief that I could do things. Perhaps not as fast or even the same way as NT folk but I could find a way.

I had a horrible bout of depression in 2015 and the worst bit was I felt no matter how hard I tried it wasn't good enough. It took 6 months and a rejigged medication routine (same drugs different timings, that's a real spectacular ND drug adverse event) to get right and I'm still much more fragile.

I've pointed out several times our biggest challenge is not SD16s diagnosis but rather her mother's unwillingness to work with us on ensuring she's getting the care she needs. One thing this sweet girl needs is someone who is going to be more stubborn than she is. When she's with us longer than a week her behaviour improves hugely. I don't let her fade into the background. I support her Dad to get her engaging with us as a family.

If we can do that in a week, what would 6 months do?

Good 

Yep they were. yes gets skimmed today. Safer than I've felt in a long time

But it's lovely waffle.....Misfit.....

Were misfits 1 to 60 lost in a previous fight.......I'm thinking along the lines of a cat having 9 lives.......?

hang in there...,the crack in the wall is almost mended....

feel safe here..you?

But it's lovely waffle.....Misfit.....

Were misfits 1 to 60 lost in a previous fight.......I'm thinking along the lines of a cat having 9 lives.......?

hang in there...,the crack in the wall is almost mended....

feel safe here..you?

Good 

Yep they were. yes gets skimmed today. Safer than I've felt in a long time