Help! Are there any women in this Community with ASD

Hello, I too am very new here but feel it's been a long time coming. I am self diagnosed hf asd and inattentive adhd from what I have read. I have an appointment with the mental health nurse (after seeing her last October) to discuss wether I meet the criteria for a referral but everything I've read on the subject since October and difficulties that my teenage son is experiencing (failing at mainstream school) have made me want to fight for a diagnosis. Just wanted to say I'm here! 

Hi and welcome

At the moment I am also self diagnosed....so good luck with your appointment. Do you think it is better to seek referral or not? It is a shame that it seems to have to be a fight!!! My husband has told me to stop reading about the subject as he feels it makes things worse... but I am just hoping for answers and strategies to move forward....

hooe you have a good support network...

goid to to hear from you

Hi Nas, I have thought long and hard about a referral, if it wasn't for the fact that I have 2 sons I probably wouldn't bother but I feel like my teenage sons problems have been misinterpreted as mental health problems, behavioural, etc. He has just had an education plan done and some of the things the ed psych says just make perfect sense that he is like me. He can't or doesn't even want to see it or discuss it, but he's had problems throughout his childhood. My husband isn't very supportive. I moved to a new area a year ago, got married, lived as a family for the first time in 5 years and everything has got so much harder. At first it felt like mental health, but I knew I wasn't depressed, I have ups and downs and anxiety, it was also thought it could be the menopause, but I've struggled throughout my life and now I'm beginning to understand.

Thank you Spotty...you are on the survivors list as well xx miss you both loads when at work x 

Thanks both of of you. Night xx

Chicken soup has been proven to aid recovery last time I looked, honest, can't remember why. Wish I could magic you some. Well done on another week survived Ellie. xx

Good, look after yourself, ok x 

Oh good! Will look tomorrow. Yes I will try to have some soup or something tomorrow x

i have started a new thread btw if that helps with the scrolling....toast for breakfast and that chicken soup if you can ok tomorrow x  

Takes some doing doesn't it! Just keep being yourself and take time out if you need to. Maybe your diagnosis is a help as it not only explains things to you but to your son as well. I like the sound of Spottys soup. Anyway well done another week of term down and weekend commences. 

Positive vibes to you too! You are so talented and I hav3 a huge respect for you x glad your parking the gardening...so does that mean earning pennies with your art? Xx 

Hi Missy...managed to find you eventually. I didn’t realise that you were so poorly at the moment...all my love to you... surprised you hadn’t had children either...as you are my mother hen and keeper here! I have my son who is 13 but with my recent diagnosis...I feel that I am hampering more than helping at the moment...I need to dig deep and out if my comfort zone x 

Hi Missy...managed to find you eventually. I didn’t realise that you were so poorly at the moment...all my love to you... surprised you hadn’t had children either...as you are my mother hen and keeper here! I have my son who is 13 but with my recent diagnosis...I feel that I am hampering more than helping at the moment...I need to dig deep and out if my comfort zone x 

Thank you Spotty...you are on the survivors list as well xx miss you both loads when at work x 

Thanks both of of you. Night xx

Chicken soup has been proven to aid recovery last time I looked, honest, can't remember why. Wish I could magic you some. Well done on another week survived Ellie. xx

Good, look after yourself, ok x 

Oh good! Will look tomorrow. Yes I will try to have some soup or something tomorrow x

i have started a new thread btw if that helps with the scrolling....toast for breakfast and that chicken soup if you can ok tomorrow x  

Takes some doing doesn't it! Just keep being yourself and take time out if you need to. Maybe your diagnosis is a help as it not only explains things to you but to your son as well. I like the sound of Spottys soup. Anyway well done another week of term down and weekend commences.