Help! Are there any women in this Community with ASD

Hello, I too am very new here but feel it's been a long time coming. I am self diagnosed hf asd and inattentive adhd from what I have read. I have an appointment with the mental health nurse (after seeing her last October) to discuss wether I meet the criteria for a referral but everything I've read on the subject since October and difficulties that my teenage son is experiencing (failing at mainstream school) have made me want to fight for a diagnosis. Just wanted to say I'm here! 

Hi and welcome

At the moment I am also self diagnosed....so good luck with your appointment. Do you think it is better to seek referral or not? It is a shame that it seems to have to be a fight!!! My husband has told me to stop reading about the subject as he feels it makes things worse... but I am just hoping for answers and strategies to move forward....

hooe you have a good support network...

goid to to hear from you

Hi Nas, I have thought long and hard about a referral, if it wasn't for the fact that I have 2 sons I probably wouldn't bother but I feel like my teenage sons problems have been misinterpreted as mental health problems, behavioural, etc. He has just had an education plan done and some of the things the ed psych says just make perfect sense that he is like me. He can't or doesn't even want to see it or discuss it, but he's had problems throughout his childhood. My husband isn't very supportive. I moved to a new area a year ago, got married, lived as a family for the first time in 5 years and everything has got so much harder. At first it felt like mental health, but I knew I wasn't depressed, I have ups and downs and anxiety, it was also thought it could be the menopause, but I've struggled throughout my life and now I'm beginning to understand.

Thank you Spotty...you are on the survivors list as well xx miss you both loads when at work x 

Thanks both of of you. Night xx

Chicken soup has been proven to aid recovery last time I looked, honest, can't remember why. Wish I could magic you some. Well done on another week survived Ellie. xx

Good, look after yourself, ok x 

Oh good! Will look tomorrow. Yes I will try to have some soup or something tomorrow x

i have started a new thread btw if that helps with the scrolling....toast for breakfast and that chicken soup if you can ok tomorrow x  

Takes some doing doesn't it! Just keep being yourself and take time out if you need to. Maybe your diagnosis is a help as it not only explains things to you but to your son as well. I like the sound of Spottys soup. Anyway well done another week of term down and weekend commences. 

Positive vibes to you too! You are so talented and I hav3 a huge respect for you x glad your parking the gardening...so does that mean earning pennies with your art? Xx 

Hi Missy...managed to find you eventually. I didn’t realise that you were so poorly at the moment...all my love to you... surprised you hadn’t had children either...as you are my mother hen and keeper here! I have my son who is 13 but with my recent diagnosis...I feel that I am hampering more than helping at the moment...I need to dig deep and out if my comfort zone x 

And I'd like to have a go with glass and potters wheel. 

I quite fancy basket making too but not a group near me. Have you seen the craft programme on tv .. there have been some interesting ideas on it. Craft: I made this on demand 4. 

Unlike me not to eat.. sure it won't do me any harm not to. I'm drinking plenty of water. I think I've had the full range of thoughts ( including yours) on children, vso, foster, adopt, etc  part of me is thankful I don't have the extra worry.  being able to care for them properly came first and I don't think there was ever a time when I felt I could. Plus it will sound totally weird but I was always torn between thoughts of a life growing inside me being both wonderfully special and abhorrent which is quite a confession.

Im impressed / interested by your  range of craft skills. I borrowed a spinning wheel for a while and enjoyed it. I went to the local spinners weavers and dyers group but they were all so much more skilled than me. I have been to a couple of wool events which I enjoyed as like you said there is an instant connection. I started an Snb group but I found being in a group difficult and definitely couldn't stitch at the same time so dropped out but have thought about trying again but like you and your art the impetus to knit or crochet isn't there at the moment. Plus I have stacks of fabric waiting for me to sew. It's one of the things I've thought about retrying. I like the idea of upholstery but health and safety might be an issue with the tools! Sorry to hear you have damaged your wrist.. all that hammering strumming and pruning you've been doing. Seems as though it's helped the realisation you don't want to do the garden anymore. An alternative income source might appear soon instead. 

Unlike me not to eat.. sure it won't do me any harm not to. I'm drinking plenty of water. I think I've had the full range of thoughts ( including yours) on children, vso, foster, adopt, etc  part of me is thankful I don't have the extra worry.  being able to care for them properly came first and I don't think there was ever a time when I felt I could. Plus it will sound totally weird but I was always torn between thoughts of a life growing inside me being both wonderfully special and abhorrent which is quite a confession.

Im impressed / interested by your  range of craft skills. I borrowed a spinning wheel for a while and enjoyed it. I went to the local spinners weavers and dyers group but they were all so much more skilled than me. I have been to a couple of wool events which I enjoyed as like you said there is an instant connection. I started an Snb group but I found being in a group difficult and definitely couldn't stitch at the same time so dropped out but have thought about trying again but like you and your art the impetus to knit or crochet isn't there at the moment. Plus I have stacks of fabric waiting for me to sew. It's one of the things I've thought about retrying. I like the idea of upholstery but health and safety might be an issue with the tools! Sorry to hear you have damaged your wrist.. all that hammering strumming and pruning you've been doing. Seems as though it's helped the realisation you don't want to do the garden anymore. An alternative income source might appear soon instead. 

Thank you Spotty...you are on the survivors list as well xx miss you both loads when at work x 

Thanks both of of you. Night xx

Chicken soup has been proven to aid recovery last time I looked, honest, can't remember why. Wish I could magic you some. Well done on another week survived Ellie. xx

Good, look after yourself, ok x 

Oh good! Will look tomorrow. Yes I will try to have some soup or something tomorrow x

i have started a new thread btw if that helps with the scrolling....toast for breakfast and that chicken soup if you can ok tomorrow x  

Takes some doing doesn't it! Just keep being yourself and take time out if you need to. Maybe your diagnosis is a help as it not only explains things to you but to your son as well. I like the sound of Spottys soup. Anyway well done another week of term down and weekend commences. 

Hi Missy...managed to find you eventually. I didn’t realise that you were so poorly at the moment...all my love to you... surprised you hadn’t had children either...as you are my mother hen and keeper here! I have my son who is 13 but with my recent diagnosis...I feel that I am hampering more than helping at the moment...I need to dig deep and out if my comfort zone x 

And I'd like to have a go with glass and potters wheel. 

I quite fancy basket making too but not a group near me. Have you seen the craft programme on tv .. there have been some interesting ideas on it. Craft: I made this on demand 4.