Really struggling with cleaning/ household tasks

I have just had a diagnosis of apsergers (with a fair amount of adhd traits too) at 38. I have a long history of depression and anxety. I am struggling most with executive functioning and it is the adhd traits that seem to be causing my the most problems at the moment. I have struggled for so long with keeping my house clean and uncluttered. My house is full of clutter and I am a huge procrastinator, have very low motivation and even if I do actually manage to do some housework I get distracted or can't seem to  do it for long. I get over whelmed by everything that needs to be done but also seem to have an issue with just doing a little bit at a time. 

I have been criticised by my husband and my parents for so long as they just couldn't understand why I found it all so difficult. I wish I could employ a cleaner and someone to help me organise things but I don't have the money. 

Any adivce woulde be much appreciated. I was only diagnosed last week and am still getting my head around it all. 

Parents
  • I got you! 

    Perhaps our dopamine doesn't turn on by contemplating a task. We focus on the doing - EW NO! - and get no dopamine, no starter juice. 

    But if I watch tik toks , type in Clean with me, Tidy with me, Study with me, etc, I see their finished results and from that I get dopamine and suddenly   ...   I WANT... to do the task. 

    Other things are using music to get started. 

    I hate housework , and the house gets feral. 

    Clutter.do you mean decor,?  Buy tubs. These either must have a lid and look nice, or fit in cupboard. Each tub contains the items that go on ONE table top.  Then keep 2 or 3 items on the table top , maybe photos, and the rest sits below in the tub. When you get bored put the photos in the tub and bring out the other things the kids art or the vase etc.  

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  • I got you! 

    Perhaps our dopamine doesn't turn on by contemplating a task. We focus on the doing - EW NO! - and get no dopamine, no starter juice. 

    But if I watch tik toks , type in Clean with me, Tidy with me, Study with me, etc, I see their finished results and from that I get dopamine and suddenly   ...   I WANT... to do the task. 

    Other things are using music to get started. 

    I hate housework , and the house gets feral. 

    Clutter.do you mean decor,?  Buy tubs. These either must have a lid and look nice, or fit in cupboard. Each tub contains the items that go on ONE table top.  Then keep 2 or 3 items on the table top , maybe photos, and the rest sits below in the tub. When you get bored put the photos in the tub and bring out the other things the kids art or the vase etc.  

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