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Family Party

Roy

I’m becoming very stressed over an upcoming family party, it’s next month and it’s my mothers 80th birthday. 
It’s being held in her house and a lot of people have been invited, I know it will become very noisy and involve a lot of alcohol. 
Im expected to be there, it’s known I will struggle and shutdown but I will still be expected to sit there and pretend to be enjoying it. I know the “cheer up or can’t you just try?” Comments will start, it’s making more anxious as the day draws closer. It’s actually making me feel ill.

I live there when I’m working, so there is no escape. I don’t want special treatment, I just need to be left alone. Messages are pinging back and forth about what party drinking games they could do, I’ve been alcohol free for two and a half years, I don’t want to go back to the old me. If I was to mention autism to any of them, I know it would just lead to stupid comments. Sorry just venting but I know you are the only people who would understand.

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  • Hi   I don’t have any advice, but just wanted to say I absolutely 100% feel your distress. I have the same problems but I havnt figured out a way around it. I also become anxious and distressed in the build up to an event. I then become resentful and angry which makes for a really bad combination of feelings. I get angry because WHY are we expected to do these things? Did we sign a contract? No. Did we give our authority? No. I really do wish you well. I would say maybe tell them you arnt able to take this on/ can only stay for an hour etc but that’s not possible I know. They end up thinking you don’t care which is another misunderstanding. It feels very claustrophobic doesn’t it? 

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  • Hi   I don’t have any advice, but just wanted to say I absolutely 100% feel your distress. I have the same problems but I havnt figured out a way around it. I also become anxious and distressed in the build up to an event. I then become resentful and angry which makes for a really bad combination of feelings. I get angry because WHY are we expected to do these things? Did we sign a contract? No. Did we give our authority? No. I really do wish you well. I would say maybe tell them you arnt able to take this on/ can only stay for an hour etc but that’s not possible I know. They end up thinking you don’t care which is another misunderstanding. It feels very claustrophobic doesn’t it? 

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