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Tone of voice.

Roy

Does anyone else find they are constantly checking their tone of voice when answering a question?
It’s something I just seem to put a lot of energy into, constantly scanning that I haven’t sounded too unhappy, uninterested or annoyed. I make sure the pitch of my voice rises and I smile.

I’m generally quite happy, I just find if I’m not constantly checking my tone that I seem to be accused of something. It gets to the point of causing anxiety, exhaustion and not wanting to talk. It’s harder to answer a question when tired.

  • I can't really control my tone, but sometimes I find it "strange" afterwards. Sometimes if I'm in a good mood with more energy I put more attention into how I sound and gesticulate. In exhaustion I find it hard to communicate at all. Maybe you need some therapy with your anxiety? 

    I remember being accused of plotting against someone because I was sitting staring and stimming (lip picking). And one lady told me "I know you are plotting against me! Be careful I have these and that connections etc" she wasn't a stranger. First I thought she got crazy, what should I plot against her and why she thinks that. She showed me how I behave and said she doesn't like it. 

    I remember it as if it was yesterday and long 10 years wondered why it happened till I found out about autism. I'm usually unaware of my behaviour and tone of voice, but recently started putting more attention to it and noticing weird stares and I'm  kind of anxious. I think that tge realisation of the condition adds to that.

  • Sometimes I hear an echo of myself over the phone which can make me a self conscious. I had someone ask me to give a 5 minute video recording of myself, beyond a point there is only so much you can alter. Mostly I realise I am not really that aware of my facial expressions, although I don't come accross as agressive or rude, I don't think tone its something to worry too much about (ie how other people might interpret that is up to them, I only deal with mature adults) unless your'e giving classes or want to be Prime Minister - this is another you are you situation.  Really its just about getting into the flow, and keeping up practice as mostly its the confidence in what you are saying which underpins the tone.