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Tone of voice.

Roy

Does anyone else find they are constantly checking their tone of voice when answering a question?
It’s something I just seem to put a lot of energy into, constantly scanning that I haven’t sounded too unhappy, uninterested or annoyed. I make sure the pitch of my voice rises and I smile.

I’m generally quite happy, I just find if I’m not constantly checking my tone that I seem to be accused of something. It gets to the point of causing anxiety, exhaustion and not wanting to talk. It’s harder to answer a question when tired.

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  • 30 years ago I used to be extremely monotone.

    I was told to vary it a bit more. I used to try a bit. I did a presentation course 15 years ago and they said the same thing. They even videoed it I think for extra cringe. I have tried to vary it.

    I think if you are calm and interested in something you can vary it naturally. I gave less trouble these days I think.

    Note that it is not an issue in certain cultures. In Finland, for example, everyone talks in a more of a monotone and they manage.

    I'll be radical and say stop worrying about it. Just take the pressure off, forget trying to fit in. Just be natural. If you free up mental power by relaxing, you'll be better without noticing. This is the whole point of diagnosis, to allow to accept who you are and stop trying, which perversely will make you more normal. Being relaxed fixes lots of things.

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  • 30 years ago I used to be extremely monotone.

    I was told to vary it a bit more. I used to try a bit. I did a presentation course 15 years ago and they said the same thing. They even videoed it I think for extra cringe. I have tried to vary it.

    I think if you are calm and interested in something you can vary it naturally. I gave less trouble these days I think.

    Note that it is not an issue in certain cultures. In Finland, for example, everyone talks in a more of a monotone and they manage.

    I'll be radical and say stop worrying about it. Just take the pressure off, forget trying to fit in. Just be natural. If you free up mental power by relaxing, you'll be better without noticing. This is the whole point of diagnosis, to allow to accept who you are and stop trying, which perversely will make you more normal. Being relaxed fixes lots of things.

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  • in reply to Stuart333
    Stuart333 said:
    I did a presentation course 15 years ago and they said the same thing

    I must have been a masochist because I did a public speaking course years ago. It was following an embarrassing incident when I was in my late teens in which I fainted in front of a small audience. I was determined to overcome it and eventually managed to speak in front of small groups. I don’t think I could do it now, yet I wonder if my voice is too up and down in case I have overcompensated.