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kiwipip
kiwipip 2 days ago

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  • Cinnabar_wing
    Cinnabar_wing 1 day ago in reply to TheCatWoman

    Sometimes I think speaking English isn't my first language. I think I prefer pictures. 

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  • TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman 1 day ago in reply to kiwipip

    Sometimes it feels like someone else has taken control of my mouth and it's not my words being spoken, my brain knows what order they should come out in, but they get jumbled up on the way to and out of my mouth.

    What's worse is people then get offended, won't accept that offence wasn't my intention and give me a mouthful and when I tell them if I wanted to be offensive I'd have said ...., it makes it even worse. Sometimes I wonder why I bother saying anything to anyone.

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  • kiwipip
    kiwipip 1 day ago in reply to TheCatWoman

    Haha I like how you describe that 

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  • TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman 1 day ago

    I am articulate, but I still manage to get my mucking furds wuddled and I have terrible foot in mouth disease, even worse I try and get the first foot out of my mouth with the second foot.

    Sometimes I think people deliberately take things the wrong way, I know everyone has days when they're more sensitive than others, but.....

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    B 1 day ago in reply to Cheese_and_Biscuits
    Cheese_and_Biscuits said:
    Excellent! Thank you for making me smile B.

    You are welcome Blush 

    Your name is dangerous for a cheese addict like me

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  • kiwipip
    kiwipip 1 day ago in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    I think he was instigating it a lot with them behind the scenes though and I just never got to find out properly 

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  • kiwipip
    kiwipip 1 day ago in reply to B

    Haha I like that 

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  • kiwipip
    kiwipip 1 day ago in reply to Ma.ra.

    That sounds like an interesting book and a lovely read - I may download it! 

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  • Lonehare12
    Lonehare12 1 day ago in reply to Cheese_and_Biscuits

    Me too.

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  • Cheese_and_Biscuits
    Cheese_and_Biscuits 1 day ago in reply to B

    Excellent! Thank you for making me smile B.

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  • Ma.ra.
    Ma.ra. 1 day ago in reply to kiwipip

     kiwipip We have a beautiful novel about concise communication — School at the Frontier by Géza Ottlik, 1959. The teenage characters understand each other using just tiny sounds like ‘brr’ and ‘hrr’ and they use this communication also during their adulthood! Let me check for the part I was thinking of by your ‘A’.

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    B 1 day ago in reply to Cheese_and_Biscuits
    Cheese_and_Biscuits said:
    B?

    Yes?

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  • Cinnabar_wing
    Cinnabar_wing 1 day ago in reply to kiwipip

    Yeah, that must have hurt, especially from someone who should have been supportive. Then it can be crushing. It's a big deal to work through that.

    It's very confusing when people have unexpected negative reactions, or reactions you can't quite read or understand.

    On work platforms I use emojis a lot to try convey a light hearted tone in the hope of a positive reaction.

    Here it helps a bit as everyone is just trying their best and getting it wrong sometimes. You aren't on your own with it.

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  • kiwipip
    kiwipip 1 day ago in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    I think it’s because when I used to write to my ex and write things happy he would still somehow shout at me over it so just stopped trusting what I was sharing 

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  • kiwipip
    kiwipip 1 day ago in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Yeah me too 

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  • Cinnabar_wing
    Cinnabar_wing 1 day ago in reply to kiwipip

    It's so tough isn't it. I am going to try work on having more courage.

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  • pietro_21
    pietro_21 1 day ago in reply to kiwipip

    Its always worth putting some words in anyway even if they are not exactly the right ones.

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  • kiwipip
    kiwipip 1 day ago in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Yeah I used to end up doing this with some of our friends in the group chat and then thought ooo nooo they won’t want to know about that or they might take that the wrong way so end up deleting them. And then I used to get told off about it quite badly…. Which made my anxiety about it a lot worse. But I thought all of my friends know what I’m like with wording things they know it’s because I don’t always articulate it properly and worry 

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  • Cinnabar_wing
    Cinnabar_wing 1 day ago in reply to kiwipip

    Yes, this is me.

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  • Lonehare12
    Lonehare12 1 day ago in reply to kiwipip

    Same here..

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